With St. Valentines day coming up… I was thinking about sending my WW some flowers… Nothing too expensive maybe $40 or $50…

Any thoughts???

Should I???

Shouldn’t I???

Morning Amazin!

One week today, huh? That's great!!!

I'd definitely get your W something for Valentines day... doesn't have to be expensive, but the fact that you remember will make a large deposit in her love bank...

Semper Fi,

RIF

Thanks RIF...

She doesn't like roses... Never has... which is strange because she has a rose tattoo...

I found something at www.proflowers.com that I think I'm going to send... Red tulips and blue iris's... It's called "Hugs & Kisses"...lol <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

Anybody else have any thoughts?

Nobody else has any thought on wether I should send WW anything on valentines?

Single red rose arangement from a florist. Understated, effective, not pushy, clingy or desparate.

I vote for sending the flowers, but I would also have them attach a long lasting momento to the flowers. A little figurine of some sort. It will last long after the flowers
and she will have to think of you every time she sees it.


GF

a charm bracelet <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

She doesn’t like roses... She likes wildflowers...


I like that Idea... and the charm bracelet...

When I proposed to my wife I took her to a very romantic Italian restaurant. It had a big grand piano in the middle of the restaurant. All the waiters and waitresses sang. All the booths had doors on them for privacy… In the booths there was tons of graffiti… So n so loves So n so… etc… So n so proposed here on 15 June 2000.

When I proposed I gave her 4 fake roses that I made out of Hershey Kisses, red cellophane paper and plastic stems. Each rose had a little note attached to it. The last one had a paper engagement ring that I had made that said “Will you marry me?” on it.

Anyway… Another Paper ring maybe? Or maybe a similar setup with a real ring with the same inscription…

Any thoughts?

The funny thing is we didn't tell the kids we were engaged right away... One Sunday about a week after I proposed we took all 5 kids to the pool at the base... On the way the subject of Marrage came up... All the kids were Chanting "Ask, Ask, Ask, Ask!" as loud as they could... My wife and I just looked at each other and smiled because I already did... After the pool we went to her mothers house... and again they were chanting Ask Ask Ask...

So for them I got down on one knee and asked her to marry me again... They all cheered...

LOL...

Amazin,

I haven't had time to catch up on your thread yet. I'll try to get to it later tonight, but I did want to tell you I replied to you on the fishing thread and left you a note there to read the rest of the thread from the beginning, if you haven't done so yet. There's a little more there than fishing stories...

Send the flowers, maybe something little but special. I wouldn't spend a weeks salary right now, but let her know you are still thinking of her.

If you can recreate the fake roses again, I think that would be a super idea, BTW.

Mark

Haven't read the thread.


But yes, you should buy yourself something nice for valentines day!

A gym membership? A new big screen? Perhaps a vacation somewhere warm where the drinks have umbrellas in them?

Thanks for all the advice everyone...

ONE WEEK NO CIGARETTES Yea!!!!!

Sounds like you are doing very well talking to your wife. That is the way to deal with all of this. Show her you can be that guy she fell in love with again, and a much better alternative.

You have 5 kids? I must have missed THAT one.

I'll pitch in with a Valentine's Day question, too. I'm just divorced, and still attempting to win her back, by working on myself first. She is involved, at least emotionally, with a guy in another state. I want to do something for her for V-Day, just not something romantic. She's going to be out of town on a business trip (its possible she'll be seeing OM, I don't know, though) and I thought about just putting a card in her luggage. Nothing too romantic, just a "Hey, I still care about you" deal. Good idea? Bad idea? Should I do something else?

Thanks Believer,

I have 3 and she has 2. But only 3 girls lived with us recently.

I asked her if she still had the paper ring...She gave me a bunch of fog speak about she threw it out when she moved out and that she was done with it... and why hang on to something that makes you miserable... Yada yadi ya....

I was hurt... Told her that really made me sad... I told her that ring had alot of sentimental meaning to me...

She said the ring was hers and that it should of had sentimental value to her...not me...

I told her it did have sentimental value to me... A Lot... that was the ring I put on her finger when I proposed.

I asked her if she threw anything else out and she basically said it wasn't any of my buisness...

So anyway... for Valentines I think I'm going to get her some flowers... Attach a ring to them that has the inscription "I owe you one" (That's what was on the paper ring)

Maybe deliver them personally??? In my dress blues...

Any thoughts?

8 days... Still no cigarettes... Today is #9... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

Morning Amazin! Congrats on 8 days and for starting on day 9!!!

Hope you're having a good week and that you find something nice for your W... I ordered Mrs. RIF and the girls some 'personalized' M&Ms...

Semper Fi,

RIF

Thanks RIF. Nine days down today is day 10. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Ten days down!

I'm supposed to go with the WW and get our taxes done today.

I'm really irritated because I know the OM slept at her apt last night. Really pisses me off. I'm going to keep my cool though. get the taxes done, get the check in my acct. And get away from her before I say something REAL UGLY.

Congrats on Day 10!

I hope that you have your finances separated from your WW... No sense in you financing her A....

Semper Fi,

RIF

Our finances are separate. We just want to file jointly to get a larger return.

We went to H & R Block... after 10 minutes we decided that the person was an idiot. We talked about it and decided to get the software and do it ourselves.

The only problem with that is neither one of us trusts the other person. If we get a direct deposit which account do we put it in??? Mine??? Hers??? If we have a check mailed … whose address?

A conundrum so to speak.

We went to breakfast after H & R Block. It was the first time we’ve really seen each other since January 13th. We were civil. Had a nice breakfast. Had some small talk nothing serious. I paid for breakfast. After she dropped me off and I kissed her on the forehead and said good bye. The whole time at breakfast and when I was saying good bye she seemed like she was very emotional and ready to cry… but she kept a poker face and didn’t show her emotions.

I’m usually pretty good about reading emotions and people. She seems to be sad about being apart…She was on the verge of crying when I said goodbye… but at the same time the OM spent the night at her apt… waited there for her while she was with me and then she went right back to him at the apt.

Anyone have any insights to her mind here? Is it just confusion and guilt on her part? Or a deception???

Maybe a former WW can enlighten me...