I'm doing great!

Just busy at work... And I don't have internet access at home right now.

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

I haven’t heard from my WW since the 7th. She was supposed to let me know if my step daughter was coming over for the weekend. And she said she was going to let me have the bunk bed back that she took. Of course she blew me off…

I don’t think she’s going to AA any more… or seeing the OM that she met at AA… but I’m not sure about that… It wouldn’t surprise me if she’s already moved on to a second OM. She wasn’t at home the whole weekend again. (Makes me wonder what she’s been doing with her daughter for the weekends?) Her female friend’s car was parked at the WW’s apt all weekend… I’m sure they’re probably both wh*ring around together… She doesn’t seem to ever be at her apt… It seems like the step daughter is there by herself most of the time. Oh well… I’m sure I’ll have a pretty good idea what she’s up to sooner or later… she’s not very discrete.

My youngest daughter is playing in the championship basketball game tonight! I’m sure she’s exited. The next sport is track and field… Practice has already started. I’m going to start going to a men’s study group at church on Thursday’s and my kids are going to the youth service on Wednesday’s. My oldest daughter isn’t too exited about it but the other two kids seem to be ok with it.

I know I shouldn’t obsess about my wayward wife but I miss her… and my step-daughter. It’s hard not to think about them…

I'm a super snooper...

I waited in an indiscrete location to see which way my wife went after work... I followed and lost her immediately... so I turned around and found her car at Dunkin Donuts.... Again I waited in a discrete location to see which way she went.... I followed and lost her immediately again.... then saw her car driving through an apartment parking lot. I turned around and gave her some time to get where she was going and saw where she was parked...

It’s not the same apt that the first OM was living at...A totally new apt complex... 2 minutes from her work... Could be a co-worker... or possibly her AA sponsor... or even a new OM...

At least I have some idea where she’s going... And hopefully I’ll find out if she’s seeing a second OM or not... If she is....It’s really going to hurt me...

If she’s with a second OM ... I don’t know if I’ll want to try and save the marriage...I may just let her go...

Her car's still at this new Apt complex... If it's there until 10 tonight I would have a hard time believing it's something other than OM #2... Her female friend's car is at the WW's Apt...

I'm anxious to find out...

still here following your posts..... for a few different reasons i haven't kept mine up... i don't have any advice for you but you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers

hugs to you all from the baby and i.

Thanks Snuggles...

Her car's still there and it'a about 10 PM... I'm seriously depressed now...

Amazin...

Snap out of it.....there are many good things going on in your life right now....your son, your new truck, your home repair....oh,, and lets not forget the most important thing....GOD SAVED YOU THIS WEEKEND....

So cheer up, your life is not too shabby right now....

Good thinking on the men's bible study....I think you will like it....

not2fun

I know... but I still love my wife and it hurts to see this... I really can't comprehend how someone can be so indifferent to another persons feelings...

It's so selfish that it disgutsts me...

Maybe I should start thinking about Plan B. If I keep seeing her going from man to man I think I'm going to end up hating her...

I went to church tonight for the men’s study group. But... they didn't have it. Instead they had a special guest speaker that had been advertised on the local Christian radio station....Dr. Dave Stoop and Dr. Jan Stoop. They both have PhD’s in psychology and have been married for 50 years.

He's written several books on various subjects like forgiveness, marriage, relationships... etc...

His most recent book was written by him and his wife and it’s called ...Better Than Ever: Seven Secrets to Making a Good Marriage Great.

Everything that they said was right in line with marriage builder’s principles. It was a well spent hour and a half.

Here’s a link to New Life Ministries... Click on Dave Stoop near the top of the page to see some of his books... Seems like a good resource.


http://www.newlife.com/

I go to get a new Military I.D. card today. While I'm there I ask about medical/dental benefits for my dependants. I specifically ask about what age they stop getting them. They told me 21. I was surprised because I thought it was 18.

My WW’s son is 20 and still listed as a dependant. He’s living with my Mother in Law in another state. I’m pretty sure he needs some dental work. So as a nice gesture I send my MIL an email letting her know that he’s still covered on my insurance if she wants to take him to the dentist. I gave her my phone number and email address at home so she could contact me if she needed help with anything. I also sent a carbon copy to my WW.

I got no response from either of them. The whole time my wife and I were together she had a real big issue with me talking to her family. She would get livid if I called her mom or brother. So when she saw that I sent her mom an email I’m sure the phone was ringing on both ends.... LOL

I did get an email then a phone call from WW at about 4:00 today. She said nothing about the email and wanted to know if my SD could come over on Sunday. Of course I said yes... Then I asked if she got the email I sent her mom.... She said yes... I asked about the bunk bed... She’s reneging on the bed. Her female friend wants it... I’m sure it’s a bunch of bull and she’s just being a butt head.

The whole conversation was very short and to the point... It felt... forced??? Or maybe Fake.... Like we were being nice when we really didn’t want to... or we just didn’t want to talk to each other but were doing it because we had to... I felt real uncomfortable talking to her. Is that strange? Or is that normal?

Oh well... Se la vie.

It wouldn’t surprise me if she doesn’t bring the step daughter over at all... and doesn’t call or anything else... just blows me off again.

Wow... That was a long outage of the message board...And it stunk...LOL

I think I was having withdrawls... Hmmm ... Is there a twelve step program for the MB message board? ....LOL

I hear that! I found myself kinda melancholy and I couldn't figure out what it was... then it hit me. Boom... no MB's for a week! LOL

I wasn't melancholy but there were a few times when I could have used some good advice... I missed you guys and I need ya!

Amazin.....

Hey you....what's going on??? Yes, I think we were all in withdrawls.....anyway, update us on you sitch...lets see where you are....

not2fun

Hey YOU???? Oh no no no... that won't do...LOL I need an update from your situation first...I was all into your situation and then bam.... It was like reading a book only to find out the last page is missing... LOL


I'll update ... there's lots to tell... But we're all waiting to hear from you....

no honey, it wasn't the last page, not by a long shot.....try being in the middle of it all, and all your learning going out the door and no VETS to talk to....it's been rough....

I know... I felt so bad for you... Maybe the book analagy wasn't exaclty what I ment... more like the power went off right in the middle of the movie...

Come on now! No more foolin'! UPDATES!! You and NOT2 are holding out on us... bad enough having the withdrawls and then to log back on and get teased like this not smart on your part let me tell you that!! ;=P

TAG...YOU'RE IT.....

I posted mine...now its your turn....