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Well, you certainly attracted all the goofballs here, mopey, so wadja expect? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
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oh great! So he's an Aussie and a dork!
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LMAO....I don't think I could ask a server for a "duck fart"! Are ya kiddin me?
Hey honey....would you order a "duck fart" for me at a restaurant if I wanted one?....lol.....
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Well it's up there with a "Screaming Orgasm" and "Sex on the beach"
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oh great! So he's an Aussie and a dork! OMG....ROTFLMAO!
Husband was unfaithful to me before and after our marriage, at least 7 times. I found out 13 yrs into the marriage. Trickle truth for an entire year. Several different d-days, so it was more like a d-year. Difficult recovery.
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Sorry BK. You left a big fat one over the plate and I had to hit it out of the park!
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Next time you go to a bar, ask for a Guinnes on tap and watch the bartender pour it. There's a whole ritual to it. I believe they even have a school to teach them the finer art of pouring Guinness. One of the barmaids I know used to draw a shamrock on top while pouring.
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SHADDUP BIG KANGAROONA!!! I can't breathe!!!! LMAO!!!!
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LMAO....I don't think I could ask a server for a "duck fart"! Are ya kiddin me? The best part is, not many bartenders know how to make a Duck Fart. So you sidle up to the bar, and order a Duck Fart. When the bartender says.... "How do you make a Duck Fart" You casually say.... "Uh...You step on his tail"
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I guarantee asking for a "Screaming Orgasm" would be funnier....
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OMG...OMG...LMAO <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
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I guarantee asking for a "Screaming Orgasm" would be funnier.... Hands down, you got me there... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
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O.k., I feel better now. All it took wuz a few drinks and I am no longer confoosed. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" />
Windstopped says he felt bad.
Tommorow we can discuss "just compensation".
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Oh wait.....I forgot about the enmeshment.
Dang...can't find it in Websters. I don't think I spelt it right....I'm still looking.
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Windstopped says he felt bad.
Tommorow we can discuss "just compensation". Aww, come on! Let's give him a good floggin tonight! LOL! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
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About Interpersonal Enmeshment
In human relationships, this term means two or more people who don't have clear identities and boundaries (limits) that separate one person from the other. Thus an enmeshed person can't distinguish the difference between my needs, feelings, opinions, and priorities and yours. This condition suggests both people survived a low-nurturance childhood and have significant false-self wounds.
Enmeshment ranges from mild to extreme. It is the polar opposite of two people being independent - meaning neither has a strong bond with (emotional attachment to) the other. A middle option is an interdependent relationship, where each person has a clear, stable identity and personal boundaries, and a healthy bond with the other. These promote relating together as co-equal partners out of conscious choice, vs. unconscious compulsion ("I can't live without you!")
Two adults ("Nina and Jose are joined at the hip") , a parent and a minor or grown child ("Mel's a Momma's Boy"), two children ("The twins are inseparable") or whole families may be enmeshed. Some people feel enmeshment is the same as the relationship addiction called codepen- dence. Personal identities and boundaries can be intentionally clarified and strengthened by self-motivated "parts work," which is half of co-parent Project 1 in this nonprofit, wound-prevention Web site.
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OMG...it's the computer geek at his best, ya'll <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
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You better watch it. You could still end up under the shed with the ground hogs. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />
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U R BAD LaLa.....lol......
W2S......that is sooo funny. I found the exact same article just now! I wuz gettin ready to cut and paste it here.
So now I need to mull it over a bit.
One thing I already do know is that I do have my own personal identity. Heck, Windstopped and I weren't even a couple really until the last year. He did his own thing and I did mine. So I know that's out.
I'll be back.
Husband was unfaithful to me before and after our marriage, at least 7 times. I found out 13 yrs into the marriage. Trickle truth for an entire year. Several different d-days, so it was more like a d-year. Difficult recovery.
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Yeah LaLa, he's quick. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
Just call him flash.
Husband was unfaithful to me before and after our marriage, at least 7 times. I found out 13 yrs into the marriage. Trickle truth for an entire year. Several different d-days, so it was more like a d-year. Difficult recovery.
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