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pepperband,
r u saying that you have a feeling she is prego? OW's who want to steal a husband often GET pregnant ON PURPOSE ! ASK & watch his face do not argue observe his reactions - especially NON verbal (verbal will be garbage)
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pepperband,
r u saying that you have a feeling she is prego? If he was sincere in his recovery efforts with you - he may have been drawn back to OW by a (real or fake) pregnancy call from OW.
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I like Lexxy's idea - tell him you know where he was this morning, then nothing more. Hopefully the guilt, or maybe even his need to cover, will get him and he will spill. Don't divulge any info on how you know anything, though he will probably demand it. A cheater's game, I've seen them all.
It is rare for a truly happy woman to try and take a child away from it's father.
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Pepper, that is so the truth. OW's and even spouses who feel a husband is leaving, often get pregnant on purpose.
It is rare for a truly happy woman to try and take a child away from it's father.
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Pepper, that is so the truth. OW's and even spouses who feel a husband is leaving, often get pregnant on purpose. This WIFE was already pregnant when she discovered her husband was cheating. Your words, although not intended to hurt, may be easily misunderstood .... and perhaps be hurtful to this woman. Please let her know if you were speaking in generalities and not addressing HER pregnancy specifically. Thanks.
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Way to go TX!
You have done more in a single morning than many here have done after weeks of 2x4's from the MB Peanut Gallery.
You rock!
Testosterone boys! Testosterone! It ain’t just for nose, ear and back hair anymore!
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OW WILL try & reach him after the NC letter
count on it
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You have had a VERY active day. Good work!
Please reconsider asking his parents for help.
Its yet another reason for him to end it.
And you need support!
Exposure works miracles. Right now, with you being the only one who knows, you are the only one he has to fool.
Do they live nearby? They could watch their grandbabies while you go to counseling with your pastor. Or at the very least they can pray for you.
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Did I mention she is gorgeous? She is a turd nonetheless
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Did I mention she is gorgeous? She is having sex with a married man and trying to ruin his family. She is a worthless deseased lizard.
Testosterone boys! Testosterone! It ain’t just for nose, ear and back hair anymore!
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Pepper, you are correct, in no way did I mean Tx's pregnancy.
TX!!! WAY TO GO!!!!! It is so cool when someone gathers the courage nad follows through by doing the right thing. I hope you feel that is what you have done.
Yeah, he'll be mad, but that's (strangely) a good sign. Good luck on your journey.
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Here is the general content as proposed by Dr. H.
"My advice is to write a final letter in a way that the victimized spouse would agree to send it. It should begin with a statement of how selfish it was to cause those they loved so much pain, and while marital reconciliation cannot completely repay the offense, it's the right thing to do. A statement should be made about how much the unfaithful spouse cares about his spouse and family, and for their protection, has decided to completely end the relationship with the lover. He or she has promised never to see or communicate with the lover again in life, and asks the lover to respect that promise. Nothing should be said about how much the lover will be missed. After the letter is written, the victimized spouse should read and approve it before it is sent."
There are a few templates around but I will have to dig around a bit to find one.
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Do it RIGHT this time TX.
If he is agreeing to NC, then you have to make it impossible for them to be in contact. You must have access to all passwords and accounts.
He will need to change his number or give up his cell phone.
Her phone number and e-mails need to be BLOCKED.
He needs to BE STRONG and COMMITTED to this, otherwise they will simply become sneaker.
What is your price?
Must he agree to counseling?
Must he agree to be tranparent?
What were their methods of communication? Shut them down.
What was their scheduled time together? Change it.
Maybe you and the kids need to drive him to work, meet him for lunch, and pick him up everyday for a few weeks. So that you can be sure he's not meeting her.
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If this were a drug addict, what would you do about keeping them from their drug...
delete the dealer's numbers from the phone...
let them know the consequences if they call their dealer...
explain whereabouts...
answer all questions honestly...ESPECIALLY questions about if htey have had contact with their drug...
Life may not be the party we hoped for, but while we are here we might as well dance!
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