Oh, yeah....so that is the "stick" of Plan A and the "carrot" would be meeting her needs any way in which she will let you and do not talk divorce with her.

Avoid LBers at all costs. Reverse some of things she has complained about in the past.

Just become the best H you can be, basically.

CP is that you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I'd completely forgotten my password and had to start a new account and get a new name just to see if it was really you.

Good grief I'm so beside myself that you're here that I forgot to say who I am. I'm kiwij. Kiwimom.

Hey Kiwimom!

How'd you know it was me?

New problems, but this time she's leaving the kids so I'm not going to try to convince her to stay, just show everything she'll be missing and let her decide.

Sadly the girls are used to her antics by now and there was no surprise or angst when I told them.

She never really was without me the first time we were separated but there will be 1000 miles between us, so she'll really have to sink or swim on her own.

I'm just trying to get some Plan A advice from people with experience with internet affairs. It seems a whole different ball game.


Krusht,

I just traced back the work number he gave to her and it goes to a Shell station... so I don't know who's lying to who but the probability is high that he's a gas station attendant... BWAHAHAHAHAAA.... my apologies to hard working gas station attendants out there.

Also, he accidentally called my cell once but hung up promptly. Our cell numbers are 1 digit apart.

I knew it was you because I did some snooping around this "new" user name when you left the board last time and put 2 and 2 together. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

I don't post here anymore. I don't even read here. It was total coincidence that I thought I'd have a look yesterday.

Last time we talked you were on the brink of divorce. I gather that didn't happen but she's still obviously playing the same old games.

How are those gorgeous girls of yours? The baby must be a real little girl now.

Do you remember the food fax?

From what I found from the posts back in May of 2004 (that weren't deleted) you are minimizing what happened. I think if you let other posters know of the past in your marriage they may be able to give you better advice.