Here is a short version of the affair:
http://www.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/sho...e=0#Post3324816No complaints about our marriage - in fact - just months prior to the 1st sex act with her, he told me that marrying me was the best thing that happened to him. I was completely blind-sided with this affair!
Her brother told him he was BF #44, so they are all used to her parading men around church events. I thought that perhaps the minister would frown on their activity if the BS asked for help. The least he could have done is talked with them & told her to let go so my husband & I could end our marriage with dignity.... as if she really loves my WS! Then she could have him free & clear!
Her brother is pressuring my WS that he is the one who can save his sister and put her back on the path of righteousness...!
But she doesn't want him - she has "cheated" on WS several times & told him all the details - when he has broken contact, it is to rage at me when he finds out she has cheated. As if I'm going to feel sorry for him!
WS is so dumb & depressed, he thinks he has to catch her cheating to prove to everyone at church what type of a scum person she really is. They are both caught up in this stupid "perfect couple" routine that they present in public they don't want to be honest & end it. Ironically - if they WERE honest, they would not have started this affair!!!!
Anyway - I have about 1% love & 99% divorce feelings for WS. This stupidity is almost more than I can bear. Being divorced is not the worse thing that can happen to me.
He has made too many bad choices & I do not think that I can overcome my lack of respect for him. I don't have the energy to deal with fixing this mess - whenever it may end.
In reflection, going dark certainly makes it easier to prepare emotionally for a divorce.
