She came home!!!<P>This morning shortly after I got to work my phone rang. I answered it and it was my W. She asked how I was doing and if I had any "feelings" right now. (I do believe in gut feelings from God) I said it's hard to explain, but it was close to blank and sad at the same time.<P>Her voice started to crack and she wispered "can you come get me?" I asked her what did she mean. She started to cry and said "I want to come home, I've been up since 5 this morning packing my stuff and I want to come home"<P>She is now at home. I know I've got a long road ahead of me. I'm sure the hurting is not over. But I think I can do better at fixing the problems now that she's home.<P>God has pulled me this far and I still have a road to travel with him. But I feel part of the load has been lifted in at least knowing she's safe.<P>Thank you my fellow travelers, don't worry I'm still on this road with you and hopefully you with me.<P>God bless.

Wow! I'll be praying for you to continue the good progress.<P>Flip

Congrats paul!!!!<P>Let us know how this part of the ride goes<P>take it slowly....

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH<P> <P>I'm so so so so so so happy for you, Paul! Now watch yourself ... give her space, but BE THERE if she needs to talk or WHATEVER!<P>YIPPPEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

Congrats! <P>Now for the hard part... don't forget to let her know about the withdrawal that is <B>sure</B> to follow, and that <B>you</B> want to be the one to help her through it... NOT the OM!<P>Good Luck!<BR>

I must admit I am a jumble of mixed emotions.<P>Elated one minute, leary the next.<P>I did tell my W that if I come across angry, or distant, or something of the sort at times that she has to let me know, that it's not intentional and I can't fix it if I don't see it.<P>I'm going to try to do this right, so keep the advice flowing

I'm very happy for you Praying the road ahead will only have smooth bumps.

And likewise, if she comes across angry, distant, teary .... you've gotta be understanding and patient. Withdrawal sucks ... it's painful ... and then the guilt and remorse .... oh boy ....<P>Just remain as constant as you can, Paul. I know it ain't easy, but the rewards are unbelieveable!<BR>

Paul,<P>That is so absolutely wonderful!!! I know you must be so happy. I hope that you and she are able to get everything worked out and your marriage back on track. With God, all things are possible!!! He's been hearing your prayers, and I'll continue to pray for you. Please pray for me also. I'm almost in the same situation, my husband has been back for about a week (not officially moved back in, but staying with us every night). BTW, he used the "so long afairee" letter you described to me in a previous post to send to his OW this week. God bless you and bless your marriage. Keep us posted on your progress.

Congratulations Paul

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Paul,<BR>I read this, and it made me cry..... good tears! I'm happy for you, and remember to take it slow, be gental, understanding and loving. Also, when the bumps come (and they will) don't be discouraged... it's a long process, and you can make it!<P>Don't forget to bring home flowers or some other goodie to welcome her home .<P>Lots of thoughts & prayers,<BR>Butterfly<P>------------------<BR>My favorite quote....<BR>"Hello, this is God. I will be handeling your problems today. I will not need your help, so sit back and have a good day."<BR>

Congratulations.......your posts just pull at my heartstrings.....

Paul-<P>I am so very happy for you!! You sound like a gerat guy-one who cares-I wish you only the best-for life <P><P>------------------<BR>*heartache*<BR>"Loyalty Is A Two Way Street"<BR>

Paul-<P>I am so very happy for you!! You sound like a great guy-one who cares-I wish you only the best-for life <P><P>------------------<BR>*heartache*<BR>"Loyalty Is A Two Way Street"<BR>

YYYYAAAAYYYYY, Paul. I'm so happy for you!!! You deserve this. Like they said, be careful, but I have a really good feeling!<P>Lori

Wow, Paul...That is such great news.<P>Along with all the other advice you are getting, my nickels worth is this (with help from my H. who has been home for 6 weeks): <P>Everything from here on is new...like you are meeting and dating for the first time. Use the same manners and respectful behavior you would use if you two had just met and were getting acquainted. This has worked very well for us.<P>Practically speaking, this means: <P>a) you act towards each other as if you don't have a past (this sounds silly at first, but see this as a new beginning for two different people than you were before and you'll get my drift)<P>b) this means no " you always, you never" statements<P>c) this means you listen intently to each other like people do when they first start a relationship--look fully at her when she speaks and don't interrupt even if it takes a while for her to express herself (you'll find that she will start listening more carefully to you too, so it has double value).<P>As others have said, be ready for withdrawal, discuss it with her. I even have said "I don't know what you saw in her, but she obviously meant a great deal to you so I'd love to be here for you when you feel bad". It's really hard to say, but it shows them the difference between your unconditional love and the imitation they had from the lover.<P>Blessings!<P>Lizzie<P>------------------<BR>When you go through deep waters and great trouble, I will be with you. Isaiah 43:2<P><p>[This message has been edited by Liz Smith (edited October 13, 1999).]

Incredible news, and yes you have a long road ahead of you. But, you are together and just by being together you are stronger already. You're in my prayers.<P>------------------<BR>Joan <P>"Turn your wounds into wisdom..." That really cool black gal who was on Oprah all summer.<BR>

Paul,<P>Firstly, congratulations! Secondly, watch out for withdrawal. She will be MONDO depressed for quite a while. You gotta keep with the Plan A deal. Also, expect her to have at least one or two contacts with OM (unless she's EXTREMELY strong!). The key is no love-busting during the withdrawal period!<P> <P>--andy