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That's why I am here, to assist and bring awareness. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> Agreed LaLa <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />
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(((((Jamesus)))))) Thanks, buddy!
Edited to say...MEDC...didn't see your post till now...thanks!
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That's why I am here, to assist and bring awareness. What's the matter with you, LaLa? I thought everybody likes to be patronized. If you need further assistance to "awareness" (also "maturity", you overgrown, aging juvenile), please let me know and I'll be glad to condescend to you also!<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> t&l
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<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> I know...shame on me... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
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Agree LaLa...*********edit******
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That's why I am here, to assist and bring awareness. What's the matter with you, LaLa? I thought everybody likes to be patronized. If you need further assistance to "awareness" (also "maturity", you overgrown, aging juvenile), please let me know and I'll be glad to condescend to you also!<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> t&l Hey I'm patriotic too! I VOTED for American Idol! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />
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“In a sense now, I am homeless. For the home, the place of refuge, solitude, love-where my husband lived-no longer exists.” Joyce Carolyn Oates, A Widow's Story
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Well, my ex-wh came from a family that he believed was perfect. His parents were married for 30 years, but their marriage was VERY dysfunctional. In his mind, it was PERFECT.He would tell me how his father was so PRIVATE but how much he admired him...in actuality his father was living a secret life... His father was rarely home for dinner or to tuck him in.. and pretty much spent an inordinate amount of time out of the home and away from his family. His father was always absent and very much emotionally-detached from their family. His father carried on a secret life and covered it by claiming to be away at "night school" for much of ex-wh's childhood. He was never accountable for his time, and generally did not share his whereabouts..
ex-wh thought this was perfectly normal and described it as though it was a great upbringing. He was in serious denial and believed he had the perfect role model in his father...He told me one of his teachers in middle school was one of his fathers close "friends", and that she treated him mean in class but he didn't know why...the woman was actually one of his dad's affair partners....looking back, it should have been no surprise to me that he would follow in those EXACT footsteps...being that unfortunatley he found his father's behavior admirable.
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Listen, I am all for the help you wish to offer, and commend your obvious intellect. I respectfully disagree. I really don't think I am more "intellectual" than people posting here. Fellow MBers, please carry on with your discussion. It is very helpful and the life experiences you share are invaluable. I agree. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> Everyone, please delete unnecessary comments that are distracting from the original topic.
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I'm a nurse, but I have no patience. Especially for patronizing, patrolling patterers. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />
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we can discuss it maturely. In an effort to conform to this advice by Justice2008, I am including a sample of what she means, so all you dolts can do it right: I think the continuing discussion of comparison of the pain of infidelity vs. child molestation should stop now. It's pointless and somewhat juvenile. It's similar to answering the question of whether you prefer killing your loving parents or killing your own children or do you rather eat XXXXX (self censored) from the toilet or XXXXX (self censored) from the graves. Oddly enough, this sample of "mature" discourse has been edited out of Justice2008's original entry on another thread. I guess we just weren't grown-up enough to understand. t&l
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What is this all about? Participate in the thread in a relevant fashion, or move on. There's multiple threads going on with personality clashes going on.
I don't understand why people need a to make snide remarks and derail threads with one on one personal conflicts.
No offense Resonance, I see the condescension you are pointing out in Justice's post, if one wanted to interpret it that way and chose to be offended, but I don't see what good you thought pointing it out was going to do.
And now, here I am contributing to the argument, but its getting frustrating wading through everyone's sniping at each other, and its happening in multiple threads that I follow.
Gettin sick of it is all, hate to contemplate using the ignore function as I actually have high regard for many of the posters I refer to MOST of the time.
Is there something in the water today? Full moon? what?
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And the good to come from Justice 2008 telling LaLa to be "mature" was, exactly?
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(ps OT "Molested children (usually referring to males) often become molesters themselves" This statement is always stated backwards it should be; Molesters were often molested themselves as a child.) SS, THAT clarification is very important. MOST of us DON'T grow up and perpetrate the same horrible crimes on others. That information is twisted around by uninformed people WAY too often.
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Thank you for bringing up this topic. Its something I wonder about often. That's why I am here, to assist and bring awareness. WOW! Thank you, thank you, thank you. We've all been so unaware of the affects of infidelity on the children until you arrived with your assistance. Sorry, Tyk, but her comment has got to be one of the most insensitive things I have seen on this board. AS IF, we BS's don't know the affects infidelity has on our children. WHY do you think we are FIGHTING SO HARD to restore our family?! Yes, I AM offended.
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Whatever. Another good thread going to sh1t is all I see.
Justice didn't offend you SMB. You CHOSE to take offense.
Anyhow, not worth it.
Carry on, enjoy the fight.
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I guess I have to take back my "thank you" to Sexymamambear.
Why are people reading so much into such simple sentence?
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<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />
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Because it is arrogant sounding, its not the first time you've come across as sounding condescending, and some people can't help themselves.
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Tyk,
For someone to post that they are here to bring awareness???
Come on, Tyk!
Just like many people here, I held my children in my arms and told them that their daddy was leaving our family for OW. I saw their tears, their heartbreak, their devastation. I was here everyday with them when they cried themselves to sleep, when they crawled in daddy's closet and cried, when they called at bedtime and he didn't answer.
Do I really need someone puffed up person to come here and proclaim their ability to help me be aware???
I am way more aware than I ever wished to be. We BS' are quite aware of the damage to our children. Must we have some great psycho specialist assist before we can understand?
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