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How will you know if he went?
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You all are wonderful.
I didn't ask to go to the lunch, because I knew what the answer would have been. WH even wanted to know if I planned on 'showing up and causing a scene'. I didn't answer him on that one, lol...let him think about that and wonder the entire time if I am lurking in the parking lot!
WH was kind (laugh) enough to send me all sorts of 'i love you' emails this morning....but as far as I know he is as I type this having his 'friendly lunch' with this woman.
I told him last night if he went, that i was done. I have continued to repeat the mantra 'i meant what i said' to anything he attempts to tell me.
The guy is clueless, seriously. I am sitting here hoping he chokes on his salad or something. Yeah, he deserves a kick in the nuts. You told him you were done if he went to lunch with her. Are you going to back that up? Call him on his cell. See how he reacts.
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The heck with going to lunch with him. He needs to KNOW that he CANNOT have ANY contact with old GF's or lovers. NONE. ZERO. While you may be there today...they could realize a spark exists and then get together behind your back.
If he goes to this lunch, IMHO, you should haul his [censored] into divorce court and find someone that will respect and take care of you.
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I'm with Krazy and MEDC on this one.
This guy must have a set of brass ones. He's nuckin futs!
Last edited by silentlucidity; 04/17/08 03:02 PM.
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Married 1997; son, 8yo
Divorced April 2009
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What are you going to do to enforce your statement? Are you going to put his clothes in a suitcase and leave it outside? Are YOU going to leave? How will he know that you are done? What is your plan?
I think you are making the right choice for the circumstances. I am not an advocate of divorce, but I do believe that you deserve to be with someone who respects your ENs and your personal boundaries. If he is not willing to give something this trivial up, he is not going to be willing to make other sacrifices for you.
I am here for you. I will support you as much as I can. Think about your plan. Decide on it. Then follow through. Make him feel the consequences of his actions.
BW 37 (Me).
F?WH 35.
06/97 Married.
Three sons...4, 5, and 7.
06/04 EA begins (Unknown to me).
02/10/05 D-Day EA (Unknown PA).
02/24/08 D-Day LTA 3+ YEARS! (same OW).
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