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Where did this thread go. I saw that it was locked...WHY was it deleted? Moderators...please answer as to what has been done regarding this issue. This person, if the story is true, represents a real danger to that child.
Please tell me this is NOT being ignored and that the authorities have been notified.
In this instance...with my experience...I know what needs to be done.
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Yeah, it was locked. Is it strange that they would take it off the board? I would like to think they at least alerted authorities to check on the validity of the story, even though I cant see how they could prove anything. But, you know how its done, I don't.
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proof isn't the issue here. Making someone local aware of what has happened is what is most important.
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Danielle van Dam's Parents' Sexual 'Swinging' Puts Her In Danger Interesting reading. A 2002 case - sad. Not quite the same situation, but I started thinking again about how the OW in this story doesn't have custody of her own children but full access to swingIssues' child. swingIssues hasn't posted much, and doesn't return to answer many pointed questions. I'm hoping she IS a troll, worrying that this is real is messing with my mind.
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My guess is that the thread wasn't a real story and therefore the moderators felt it appropriate to delete.
I have a feeling that if someone on this thread demonstrates a threat to a child, MB would be responsible enough to report.
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I have a feeling that if someone on this thread demonstrates a threat to a child, MB would be responsible enough to report I don't assume that...this information would need to be checked out in person. There is no possible way to verify the safety of a child over the internet. To me, silence means that nothing is being done.
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How can we confirm any of the information?
I am a mandatory reporter, but with the limited amount of information you get on a forum like this, there's nothing I could do.
It's in the hands of the moderators and MB. Hopefully, they will step up and then also have the courtesy to tell us what has transpired. But in reality, we may never know.
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WE can't conform anything. The police can as they CAN track someone by their IP address.
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Can they still do that even if someone has a dynamic (I think that's the word) IP as opposed to a static IP?
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Yes, if you have a timestamp and an IP address logged, the police can take that information to the originating ISP. Then the ISP looks up the IP address and timestamp in *their* DHCP logs, and can tell you exactly which of their customers made the post.
What I don't know is the time lag and procedure required for the police to get the information from an ISP. I don't know if the police have to get a warrant, or what the constitutional protections are on ISP logs, or that sort of thing. I assume it's done all the time but I just don't know how.
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The thread was locked pending the original poster's response to me. Which is private and will not not be discussed. Later, the thread was removed (not deleted) because of member complaints concerning off topic comments which were offensive to some members. End of story. c00per
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well, actually..the end of the story is, if nothing has been done in regards to this...and I mean directly to authorities...*********EDIT********. Unless this has been checked out...IN PERSON...you have no clue as to whether a child is in danger or not.
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I sincerely hope that the OP did not lie their way out of trouble. Their story changed drastically to minimize their own involvement in a few short posts. It would be terrible if they've somehow convinced someone in the position to help a child, to step away and do nothing. I hope and pray that OP has not manipulated anyone from MB who is well-meaning and kindhearted.
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Since this site is run by and monitored by a licensed doctor...I suspect there is a gray area as to whether a legal obligation exists to report possible cases of child abuse.
In terms of my comments regarding the moderator...I stated a fact...a failure to act on this shows a clear lack of knowledge and common sense in regards to this type of issue. Being more concerned about someones signature line than taking a stand against potential child abuse is unconscionable. I worked as a cop and now work with abuse victims. I speak from a position of knowledge.
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Being more concerned about someones signature line than taking a stand against potential child abuse is unconscionable. Okay, I guess this is personal. Since this site is run by and monitored by a licensed doctor...I suspect there is a gray area as to whether a legal obligation exists to report possible cases of child abuse. I am reasonably sure there is no grey area. There is no client-doctor relationship, thus, no obligation or legal duties to do anything. That's the US law. Say, if you're a Olympic winner for swimming, and you saw your own mother drawning in the her own backyard pool. You got some popcorn and sit there and watch and do nothing. Believe it or not, no one can charge you or sue you. We are not interested in any of your very UNmarriage building ideas. Please go troll somewhere else.
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nope, not personal... never was asked to change my sig line.
I don't think your interpretation of the law is accurate. It might be...but I do not believe it. Either way, I am certain that Dr. H does not want this site in anyway linked to a tolerance for this type of behavior.
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Well, at least BA agrees with the actions not taken!
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