Howto...

one good thing about the pregnancy is that you are currently hooked in to a system that is knowledgable about assistance in dealing with bad situations....

hopefully your pre-natal care is from a well established institution...

they can help you....
they should be well versed and educated in helping women in your situation...

you need to for the sake of your life and the children's lives get help...

which can be in a thousand different forms...

you need a plan...

you need long term plans
short term plans...
you need to be safe
your children need to be safe...

you and your husband are in an abusive cycle....
and it will not stop...and holds great potential to only escalate until and unless you break the cycle...

breaking the cycle comes in many forms and stages...

and doesn't mean you leave immediately....but always means you leave if you are unsafe...

so you need to talk to someone...
and they will help you...

your husband's abuse of God's gift of sexuality is no different than the abuse of God's gift of sexuality and intimacy in an affair...

it is the warping and using of it ...and when it is used as a weapon....it is a vile thing to do ...

you tell them at your next appointment you want to speak to a social worker...there is nothing they can or will do to you or the children other than open your world to options, information, education and resources...

they will not judge you
they will not make you do anything...
but they will show you where to get the help you need..

you need a safety plan
you need a financial plan
you need a paper plan and a trail started... etc etc etc...

stop all name calling on your part..bite you tongue every time..
and know that your not participating in arguements with him like you usually do has the potential to escalate his poor behavior...so choose your battles wisely...

the house in his name is bunk bull crap....
and so not an issue in comparison to your health and sanity..

how long till the children use vile name calling in all that they do....

you are now becoming more and more responsible for exposing children to his abuse....

and I say this factually without judgement....thousands and thousands of women and men have stood in your shoes...and made it through...

I implore you for the sake of your family....
to seek the help from professionals that you are going to need...

none of this has to be drastic at first...but you must do something to break the cycle...

seek information from those able to give it....

ARk^^

I hope you're doing ok....