I'm new here. I was divorced in 2005 and recently remarried again. Before we got married, my husband and I had SF maybe 5 times. I felt guilty having SF before marriage, my husband also a Christian man, agreed to withhold SF before marriage.

Now here we are, married for almost 6 months and still have not consummate our marriage. I'm afraid to ask if he has health issues, I'm afraid he might not be attracted to me sexually. This is something I can't discuss with anyone because it is so personal.

I would appreciate any input.

Welcome to MB, 2T...

This forum is rather slow...doesn't get much traffic. Would you consider copying and pasting your post to the Emotional Needs board?

When you do, you could include how long your previous marriage was, reasons for your divorce...and why you chose to remarry so quickly. What were some of the things you learned?

Have you read all the articles on this website, like the Basic Concepts, Emotional Needs (ENs), Love Busters (LBs), and the four rules of marriage? Links are to the right of your screen in the red box and at the top.

I ask because the Policy of Radical Honesty doesn't seem to be something you're choosing to do in your marriage right now. Would you consider that possibly, rather than having made a mistake in marrying this man, you are making one by not being open and honest?

SF is an EN...sounds like an important EN for you. Would you consider printing out the EN questionnaire and filling it out with your H?

LA

6 MONTHS! I can't believe my eyes. I can see this coming up after a week, but 6 months is ridiculous. Why are you waiting for him? Just jump him.

Have you talked about it? What does he say? Is there other affection like kissing. If so when there is kissing, is it passionate? If so, start going for it. If not, start making it passionate.

By the way, I am confused. Did you have SF with your 2nd H before marriage or were you referring to your first. Has he been married before? If not, is it possible he was raised in such a strict environment that he does not know what to do?

What are your ages? (approx) If you are both young, maybe you just need to talk about it. He may be too shy to broach the subject. If you find that to be true, take his hand and tell him it is going to be ok. Then proceed by undressing and ask him to. Take his hand and put it where you want. You will soon know if he is attracted to you.

Also, it may be that he is fearful because you have had relations before and maybe he hasn't. Maybe he is fearful of being inferior to your previous relationship in this area.