Thetha--I don't have time to post much right now, but you've got a weekend coming up and that means a visit home from your husband, doesn't it? You can't change everything at once. Don't try. Keep it simple and manageable. No crying. No begging. No whining. If you can manage to be a bit mysterious and vaguely aloof, so much the better. But if you can even keep from your usual pattern of sadness and gloom, that's a good first step. You can work up to mysterious, aloof, and challenging later! Good luck! grin