you are right devastated.
(and i wish people would not use my first name.. i don't use others first names even though i know what they are. thank you...)

i guess i just assumed that exbf's were not still checking up on me a year later.

i felt safe to vent here because i did not think, after all this time, that he would still be reading it. i assumed that since he was the one who wanted to end things over and over and over again that he would certainly not still be checking up on me.

and my ex and ow NEVER knew about this place until now.

i do need some cooling off.
i hate drama and that is all that this is.
my stomache has been in knots over it.

i don't want to leave and am not going to.

but will keep posting to a minimum for awhile while i cool off.

If I recall, you just recently used your first name in a post for all to see. Devestated is correct, you have completely identified yourself on this website and are the furthest thing from being anonymous.

I would have to agree that you should back away from the keyboard for a few days or weeks. Regroup. Talk to a personal counselor. Venting without resolve is poisonous.

jmo

I did it to prove a point (I meant to italicize it).....I know just a few others names here as well, but only thru a few exchanges of private emails (if there is such a thing as "privacy" on the net).

Anyhoo, not here to belabor my point just here to let you know I'll be honoring your request above

ba: i don't recall using my first name in one of my own posts but maybe i did. bottom line is, i am asking that it not be used anymore.

when i use the term anonymous i guess i should be more specific: it was safe for me to post my vents about exh here and ow because they had no idea of this site and i am sure they were not bothering to do searches on the internet for me. even THEY had better things to do with their time. but now, of course, at least ow knows about it and so i feel i am no longer anonymous to prying eyes. after realizing that if, for some reason, one of them might look here by some freak accident, i decided to take down any blog addresses several months ago because i did not want to be found by them. i was not anonymous to those here, but to my ex and ow, i was. now they know who i am.

that is what i meant. i can't post here about them anymore without them knowing it.

i am not going to seek counseling over this, but i am going to pray about the anger i have right now. i apparently have a LOT more anger bottled up inside towards exbf for any and everything he ever did, than i realized.

i understand your comments and do appreciate that you will be respecting my request. i may not be anonymous persay but would prefer to be called mlhb.

thank you

i would really like to lay this to rest now.

i will continue to post under this id simply because everyone here already knows me under that one.

but no more talk of this mess.

i ask that others respec that too please.

this topic is closed.

thank you

mods, maybe you could lock this thread for me?

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2069029&fpart=1

On this thread you not only posted your first name but a personal email address.

You might want to go back and edit.

Personally, I've never considered this website a 'safe' place to post much of anything. Anything that we post on these boards is available for the whole world to see.

Rule of Thumb: If you don't want a particular someone to read it, don't post it on the world wide web.

you are right ba.

i am a very intelligent person in so many areas of my life, and in others, i am very naive and entirely too trusting.

i need to work on that.

When you post an email like that it is very easy to find out personal information about you.

For instance, if I do a search on that email name that you posted, I am instantly hooked up with personal information that you post on your fitness blog.

I don't care, none of my business, but there are those that would love to poke around in your personal life.

jmo

wow, did not know that... thank you!

holy cow, you are right!
i just deleted my stuff on there. i did not realize it was open to like ANYONE!! AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!

well, it is all gone now...

i have really learned a lot about what to post and not to post.

thank you so much.

i did not realize you could search people under their email addresses. that is scary.

mlhb

mlhb, did you want this thread locked now?

Also, if you need us or have any concerns, hit the notify button at the bottom of any post or send me an email. We don't read every thread so we could miss something. Thanks.

yes, revera, please lock this thread.

AND, if you could, on the link that was posted by ba, where i listed my email address, could my email address be edited from that post? i did not realize i could be searched on that way.

thank you so much and for your help these last few days.

mlhb

Will do!