Blah, my girls are all sad and disappointed because WH said he would see them when he got off work a he just called to say that he wouldn't be able to see them. DD12 said she guessed it was because I was here. *sigh* Why would it be my fault?

It is safe for her to blame everything on you. Her dad has other plans, and is still very addicted.

See if you can do something fun with her and the other kids - video game contests, a picnic in the living room. Sheesh, it has been so long for me, I forget what 12 year old girls like!

Right now I'm thinking that he is an idiot. He's a major sex addict and I'd hate to even think who he is getting it from since he can't drive to see OW because of his car and OW can't drive to see him. Blah it grosses me out to think he might be getting it from this other girl. But, he can tell me he doesn't think of me that way. *sigh* I've done good, I need to stop thinking about that.

I'm tired and ready to go to bed I think. At least ready to chill out. I hate that WH can cause a disturance in my house and he doesn't live here and I don't speak with him.

Had a major trigger while reading another posters thread. She talked about wanting the husband who couldn't keep his hands off her a few months ago and OMG, I started bawling. That's what I want at this moment too. And THAT makes me mad because I was feeling so great about not feeling in love with him. And I STILL don't feel in love with him, I just feel hurt and stupid, and wanting. Grrrr I don't know how I feel. I just want reconciliation or a D as soon as possible.

Well I just had MIL call and wake up me up to rip me a new one saying that I need to talk with WH about visitation, etc. That it doesn't need to go through an intermediary or the kids or anyone else. She said it's stupid and it's playing with everyone's emotions, blah, blah, blah. She has me pretty upset. Oh well. I still don't want to talk with him but she has never spoken to me that way before. Said she called WH and told him the same thing.

I would have told the old bat to stop coddling sonny boy and let him act like a man. But that's just me.

I emailed her since she is at work and busy to tell her what I think. I told her that my needs and wants weren't thought of when this whole mess started but I am thinking of them now. I don't want nor need to speak with WH. I have enough stress with children, the baby, bills, and work, which are things that he doesn't have to deal with and everyone seems to be okay with that. I told her that just because everyone else is making this easy on him doesn't mean that I am. I told her that I have enough to deal with being pregnant and having the added worry of having my current in laws upset with me over something that I didn't start isn't something that I want. *sigh*

Good girl! Your husband is behaving very badly, and MIL tolerates it. But when she starts complaining how about how you are handling it, that crosses the line.

Expect her to side with her son. That is what they usually do.

Hey BLW, happy Father's Day to you. Have you been a good father? I sure have.

Sorry to hear about MIL. Again, I can relate. My thread is so very buried there's no real need to resurrect, but my H's mom dropped in on me one day - it was in March I believe, and it was very strange (I DON'T believe in "coincidences") because I was sitting here, at my desk, downloading & printing LSA documents to be filed when she showed up.

She didn't give me an earful, I gave her one. Looking back, she had no chance to get a word in w/me! Before this though she'd sent me some emails - I posted those in my thread too - and it has been evident all along how very ignorant she is when it comes to right VS wrong. I love my kids too, but there is NO WAY I will EVER get behind my son if he ever walks out on his family & refuses to support them! (BTW, I told her this, and I also said that thanks to my H/her "wonderful son" the chances of my son doing this are GREAT)

But yes, expect her to side with him. And careful with the emails; since they are clueless and you know a LOT a la MB, it's easy to want to shove what we know down their throat. Thing is, it only serves to incriminate us. So be careful what paper trail you leave.

Sounds like you'd better get on LSA. Have you looked into this?

FWIW, I currently have NO contact w/my H's mother. She's sent a few emails showing her "concern" for the kids, claiming to miss them, and I just ignore. My kids haven't asked about her once. They're more educated about alcoholism & my H's manipulation than she is! I used to get really wrapped up in "teaching her a lesson" or "giving her a piece of my mind" but have since learned that ignoring somebody is VERY POWERFUL!! Plus, I kinda feel sorry for her stupid a$$.

Shake it off, shake it off. Instead of sending her more emails & playing into the stupid festival, post here.

Good reply, Julie. It is always so tempting to just let the inlaws know what you really think when they start blaming the BS.

Yes it is easy to do. I just couldn't believe that she called me up and spoke to me in that tone of voice. She brought up our ages and the fact that I proposed days for WH to get the kids and he lives at their house so she would have to be okay with it. That's NOT my problem, it's his. I also copied the email to my mom so she could see that I wasn't being rude or anything. She said that she gave him an earful too, but you know what? He DESERVES it. I'm sorry that speaking with him causes me pain and that I don't want to do it. If that inconveniences WH or the inlaws, oh well. I have to think about myself sometimes because surely no one else is.

*sigh* Ok, I think I am off my soapbox.

Sounds like you are thinking clearly, BLW. You are absolutely right. But, you might as well tell it to the wall. If she calls or emails, IGNORE. Don't get sucked in. Maybe if mommy doesn't like the days you pick for visitation, then WH can get his own place like a big boy...or even stop hurting his family & do the right thing!

Yeah I don't quite see either one of those happening. LOL, looking at horoscopes today and this is mine:
You're fighting so hard for your own worth that it may come across as overcompensation in some way. Do you truly believe in all you can do?

And THIS is WH's....too bad his isn't true (for his spouse anyway):
You have unyielding support and faith in a spouse or partner now. You want to be his or her one person army and will do anything to get this point across.

Going through and packing up stuff today. I miss my H.

What has happened in other cases here where the BS was pregnant? Did the WH leave also? Was there any reconciliations? Believer, I know that you mentioned in the previous thread (I think it was that one) that most times the WH seems to change once the baby is born. Change how? Toward the children or toward the relationship (which also includes the children)?

Also, I haven't read the books HNHN or SAA, would they be beneficial to me at this point in the relationship or not?

Let's see...... Kloe's hubby wanted to reconcile right before the baby was born. She had a beautiful little girl whose picture is on the MB album. But then she wrote a follow-up when baby was a year old, and she had decided to divorce him.

I think it was Sad in Maryland whose hubby came back while she was in labor - I think he brought the OW along to the hospital. That was a strange one. But they ended up reconciling.

There have been several others that reconciled, and several others who brought OW to the hospital. For some reason they like to include the adulteress in the festivities.

Can you have your child near your mom's house? That at least would keep the OW away.

He knows that I would get up out of that hospital bed and rip that chick's eyeballs out if he brought her to see my son.

How can I view their stories? I've looked at the search function but it never works for me.

Blah, WH supposed to keep the kids tonight and can't do it because MIL is too tired. What a bunch of crap. I'm tired of all of them.

"He knows that I would get up out of that hospital bed and rip that chick's eyeballs out if he brought her to see my son."

LOL, that's the spirit. I know, it is hard to believe.

One OW stayed out in the parking lot, and WH kept running out to see her during his wife's labor. Another came to see the wife (the story there was hubby and OW were "just friends", and another actually saw the baby.

And after months of everyone here going back and forth over whether hubby should be at the delivery, they all seemed to show up.

The search thing doesn't work for me either.

Too bad hubby can't take the kids. What does MIL being tired have to do with anything? Like you're not worn out.

The business that FIL and MIL are in is very stressful with 14-16 hour days so I understand her being tired. Also, the girls want to see and talk with her and DD5, being very much like her father, is rambunctious (spelling?) and tiring enough when you've had plenty of sleep and not had to deal with people all day. LOL.

Weird. Ran into WH at the gas station. Just happened to be wearing short shorts and a cute top which showed that I was very pregnant. Looking pretty cute, I think. WH told me that my shoes were cute....LMAO, I have no idea what was up with that. He tried to talk more, but I wasn't having it. It's just weird that I saw him. He looked pretty good too *sigh*

He did make sure to tell me that he wanted to get the kids during the day tomorrow and he was sorry that things didn't work out tonight because he wanted to see them since it had been awhile and it was Father's Day.

Oh, that's right, Father's Day. I hope you had the kids make a Father's Day card for him. They can make their own. Mine always loved to do that.

Shorts and very pregnant - good job. Sounds like you have been keeping up with the Goddess thread - always be well dressed and cute, even at the gas station.

That's right. I even had my toes done (love the french manicure ). I told my mom about it and she was like, it's not like him to mention shoes, but if he noticed them he noticed other stuff too. He did always tell me that I had great legs.

Yep, the kids made cards full o' glitter and goodness. Seriously. They went crazy with the glitter. It might be nice to have a little boy in the house. Dolls, glitter, butterflies, Hannah Montana, and Zac Efron get old after awhile LOL.