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Here's a scary thought - what if the OP actually IS here and you don't know it? Considering their lies, would you be able to recognize the OP in your own situation? I am not going to say WHO or WHERE, for obvious reasons, but we have a situation on this board where an OW [active affair] is posting advice to the BS. As you can imagine, the advice is not MB, but more along the lines of "cut your losses," "he has made up his mind, move on..." There are some very mean, evil people in this world. That's just disgusting. Somebody needs a good butt stomping. I hope the BS has been given details!
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Wanted to add the obvious; I don't mean the fact that Mel knows and isn't telling us all is disgusting. I meant anyone who would come here to toy with a BS is disgusting. Trust me, I would never recommend trying to stomp Mel's butt! 
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Trust me, I would never recommend trying to stomp Mel's butt! especially since she is locked and loaded, baby!! edited to add: the BS did figure it out, so no worries there. 
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I got yer back, Mel.
That's truly disgusting...that thingy above.
How do ya keep from ripping that poster a new one?
I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten. My Story Recovered!
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I got yer back, Mel.
That's truly disgusting...that thingy above.
How do ya keep from ripping that poster a new one? You have a lot more fun when they don't know you KNOW, if ya get my meaning!  p.s. thanks for catching my back, my good Texas friend!
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"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Trust me, I would never recommend trying to stomp Mel's butt! especially since she is locked and loaded, baby!! edited to add: the BS did figure it out, so no worries there. Good. I hope BS can use this knowlege to the best advantage! (Does it bug anyone else that the acronym for Betrayed Spouse is BS ? I wish there was a better one!)
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IMO, the person would have to not only lie about the events of the A, but also lie about family dynamics and such in order not to be recognized. I suppose they could come here and alter dates and such, but as with any lie, eventually they all catch up to the person telling them. Truth is usually consistant and lies well, we all know where they go. LC I'm not so sure. I've heard versions my WstbxH have told other people, as well as OW and they really are so twisted I'm not sure I'd recognize them anonymously. Even things like support from family members who are still not speaking to them to this day and actual factual elements of their LSAs. And they have lied about dates and specific events even in legal documents when OW was trying to convince a judge that she did not move to a different city behind OWH's back even though he had concrete evidence of the truth. They spin a "poor us, our crazy BS's are out for revenge to ruin our lives", although we are not referred to as "BS's" but as crazy psychos that drove them out of their M's. I'm really not exaggerating - the stories do get around. Melody Lane, do you mean to say that THE WS of a single M was giving his/her own BS advice here???!!!! Shocking!!!!! The nerve of a WS never ceases to amaze me.
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I got yer back, Mel.
That's truly disgusting...that thingy above.
How do ya keep from ripping that poster a new one? You have a lot more fun when they don't know you KNOW, if ya get my meaning! p.s. thanks for catching my back, my good Texas friend! Why, MelodyLane, you sly little minx, you! I'd have to sit on my finger to keep from outing her!
I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten. My Story Recovered!
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Unfortunately the betrayed spouse left - no contact means NO CONTACT. She knew her marriage would not recover with OW posting on the same board. OW still posts from time to time here. And has recovered her marriage. I just wish it hadn't come at the expense of the betrayed spouse's safe place. It really p*ssed me off at the time.
Cafe Plan B link http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2182650&page=1 The ? that made recovery possible: "Which lovebuster do I do the most that hurts the worst"? The statement that signaled my personal recovery and the turning point in our marriage recovery: "I don't need to be married that badly!" If you're interested in saving your relationship, you'll work on it when it's convenient. If you're committed, you'll accept no excuses.
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N2F - nightmare indeed. It didn't seem innocent when OW came here seeking help. She was here specifically because she knew the OM's wife posted here and she knew who that betrayed wife was... But Harley's material had a way of softening the OW to think about recovering her own marriage. Betrayed wife simply up and left.
Cafe Plan B link http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2182650&page=1 The ? that made recovery possible: "Which lovebuster do I do the most that hurts the worst"? The statement that signaled my personal recovery and the turning point in our marriage recovery: "I don't need to be married that badly!" If you're interested in saving your relationship, you'll work on it when it's convenient. If you're committed, you'll accept no excuses.
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Melody Lane, do you mean to say that THE WS of a single M was giving his/her own BS advice here???!!!! Shocking!!!!! The nerve of a WS never ceases to amaze me. nooooooooooooooo, the OW was here giving "advice" and "comfort" to the BS while she was carrying on with the BS' husband. 
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Melody Lane, do you mean to say that THE WS of a single M was giving his/her own BS advice here???!!!! Shocking!!!!! The nerve of a WS never ceases to amaze me. nooooooooooooooo, the OW was here giving "advice" and "comfort" to the BS while she was carrying on with the BS' husband. I think I just vurped a little.
I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten. My Story Recovered!
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