Me Texan.

Got rid of coach - gave it away.

Got rid of daughter's bed. Gave it away.

Got rid of rest of furniture, table, chairs, clothes, all of them except what was off season and not worn. Got rid of all pictures, notes and emails except for those I archived in a safe place just in case.

Got her another car, towels, plates, coffee cups, and everything else I could inventory. Found out he had a doll she gave him - couple of months ago. Got it back. I have it in safe keeping as it was her Grandmother's and I am gonna give it to daughter some day.

Pretty well cleaned out the house and bank account.

Wife had NO hesitation on any of it. We even wrote some stuff and had a ritual burning one night out by the trampoline, which was also sold at a yard sale..

I believe we cleaned house. I can't think of anything else.

Oh, I found a picture rat holed in the back of my wife's billfold. I burned it. Only thing I regret is that I didn't kick the sleazeballs [censored] the night we sent him packing. But as much as I wanted to, there were valid reasons to wait on that and now I don't care.

Larry

My WH gave the OW a very nice kaleidescope last Christmas. After I exposed the A to OWH, he sent it to my WH, who promptly turned around and gave it back to the OW. Not sure why, but OW told her H that she had it again. The OWH then packed it up and mailed it to me. Right now, it is sitting on a shelf with 20 other kaleidescopes that my WH and I have gotten together. I have not yet decided what to do with it. At first, I was going to smash it, then I was going to donate it to a charity auction. Now, I am not sure. I might just keep it myself since it is now mine.

Three trash bags of stuff she gave him or things they used together (the Ky jelly - I have never needed it) went in the trash as soon as I could possibly do it. If there was any doubt about the stuff and whether she had brought it into his apt, out it went.

AM

I did the whole clothes and shoes thing. I trashed everything! I even went on to toss things I found to be remotely revealing.

Now skirts stop at the ankle and necklines at the throat. Zero wiggle room here.

No souviners to speak of. While my WW probably had more OM than any other here on MB, she never once had a lunch, gift, dinner or romantic moment with any of them.

I the items cause you even ONE SECOND of grief MAKE her get rid of them!

LMAO.......that was just TOO DANG funny......thanks for the laugh...

not2fun

Melody, THAT is the answer I wanted (needed) I have a grille that will make that painted coconut look like a raisin microwaved for 3 days! It will be so worth the tank of propane, Thanks

Uh, er, :eek:

I don't wanna know. . .

Larry

I have got to get me a Texas girl!

My wife packed up all her A clothes in bags and threw them in the clothes donation bin at a nearby church.

Cos, I thought she was just being charitable, cos I didn't know about the A till nearly a year after it was over(thanks Doc).

All Blessings,
Jerry

...throwing out the clothes, panties, whatever...

Another thing that she was going to do that to my knowledge has not happened...

I believe it was Resonance who said that the attitude and effort on the part of the (F)ww will make the difference.

I think this shows neither.

How long should I have to keep reminding her of things she says she's going to do but doesn't? I think I'd rather she didn't say she's going to do things and not do them. Just reeks of incincerity...

Don't remind her again. YOU remove the cancer. YOU take control of the situation that is harming you. This is NOT a POJA issue. Any and everything related to the affair in any way should go if that is your desire. Period...end of story.

I agree completely.

Get yourself a quart of bright red oil-based paint. Throw out all the clothing you want thrown out. Then pour the paint on them...or burn them, depending on where you live.

Apparently not.

If he was, the things would've ended up like the hat and the pic VD gave the Wookie...with maggots crawling all over it, then POUF! Up in flames!

Do it yourself! I have a file full of various things and notes that I keep. H has no idea where they are. This includes the cards & notes, addresses, a timeline of their stories & a business card I found in his wallet with her ss# on it. Recently I found a Christmas ornament in his car. He was not allowed home until he threw it away. Don't use our trash...throw it away before you leave the train station!

you could wreak all kinds of havoc on her life with that SS#....she should count her lucky stars you have not done so already.

Excuse me if I sound silly or old fashioned but I don't like to waste things...

I am all in favor of getting rid of everything related to the affair. But to throw gold in the toilet - no I wouldn't. I would take the item to a gold smith, let them melt it down, cash in the $ and give it to charity. I am not a texan as you might guess

In our case I discovered Squid's cache of affair stuff in a hiding place. I photocopied all the papers & cards and put them back with a post it saying
There were a couple of home-burned CDs too from OM.

I thought about this a lot when she came back to our marriage. I didn't want a wife without any poor from the affair, I wanted a wife who cared enough to sacrifice that affair stuff because it hurt me.

After three months she gathered everything together, and even a couple of things I had missed and gave them to me.

We burned them together. She was sad to see them go, but did it anyway FOR ME.

That was pretty symbolic IMO. Better than if I'd chucked them. not advice from me, just an example.

As a lady and a Texan, I could not allow that tacky and classless POS headwear to infect another human being.

Even transients deserve better than a baseball cap with a nudie woman silhouette appliqued on the front of it (like trucker mudflaps). It was lowbrow and lewd...very much like VD.

As for the picture - 'twas a waste of ink and paper, pure and simple.

I know...
I tried to look up a few things with this, but was never able to get any info. I suppose short dumpy red-head's don't have much of a life!

Dealan-de: Sorry, that was not directed to what you said. Actually, I quite like your "POUF! Up in flames!" approach. I think it is very useful for stuff with no real value and serves a symbolic act.

But someone mentioned throwing jewelry in the toilet and I think that would be a waste of gold. Besides it could show up again as long as it is intact (well I don't usually dig through the plumbing but who knows). If you have it melted down the piece of jewelry is gone forever, very much like burning it.

That's no lie.

Recently, when public works was digging up an area here to be turned into a park, they found A LOT of coins and jewelry that had...um...fallen into an area that was used as a latrine in the late 1800s/early 1900s.

Wonder how much of it was tossed in due to anger?