What time is it where you are?
I thought I was pretty much the only one awake at this time.

I am in UK hence morning for me

how are you doing

Guys
It is a benign tumour, but i will still need treatment. I will find out more this evening - seeing another specialist this evening

Hi Brown, Have you gotten the results from your test yet???

Oh good, that's wonderful. Not perfect news, but considering the options, its workable.

How are you doing with this news? What do you need to do to take care of yourself.

I am ok, relieved in a way but a lil bit upset that it is still there. I am going to be on tablets, which they say should reduce the size of the tumour but probably won't be able to completely get rid of it. I'll be monitored closely for a few years at least.

Guys
I just wanted to thank you guys for your kind words, thoughts and prayers in the last week

WH and I have been invited to a friend's daughter's b'day party. What do I do?

What do you WANT to do?

Will your husband be bringing his girlfriend?

I don't understand your question either.

You don't even have a MARRIAGE.

He didn't care about your TUMOR.

A BIRTHDAY PARTY is trivial.

I don't see why I should be running away from our mutual friends, H won't be bringing gf as she doesn't know these people.

Sorry Mimi - I am trying hard to keep myself busy so that I don't break down. last few weeks have been very difficult. My counsellor thinks I am in denial which might b true but i think it is easier this way.
I wasn't sure whether I should go to the party or not, hence the question.

easier than what?

Hi Brown,


There is a process that WE ALL have to go through when this happens to us. I didn't want to admit that it was called grieving, but in reality that's exactly what it is. We are grieving for our M - what we thought our M was about and we are grieiving for whatever else goes along with that.

But this is a process and denial is a huge part of it. The process will move through many layers, denial, anger, bargaining, I think there is one more, and then acceptance. I thought that once you got through one part you were done and moved onto the next. Maybe that it how it is for some people, just not me.

I moved through the parts many times and interchangeable, but nevertheless I continue to move through them.

Don't be hard on yourself, just keep putting one toe in front of the other and you will be fine. Mimi is the best at getting us to face our worst fears, because she just puts it out there for us to look at.

You are doing great. How are you feeling?

Easier than accepting that 'I' am the one with the tumour. Right now I feel I am on the outside looking in

Good catch there Pep...

I am ok Q. The denial is more about the tumour right now. WH came to the appt to hear about the tumour. But he is still wayside, and though he is nicer, he hasn't changed in other ways.
Yesterday was hard, it was my mom's death anniversary and it was very very hard.

key word

accepting





maybe it's time for anger?

That's the ones, thanks Pepper......

Anger, somehow for some that is the hardest one to work through. Don't know why it just is. But when it happens, oh goodness....