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They're Coming to Take Me Away, Ha-Haaa Napoleon XIV
Remember when you ran away and I got on my knees and begged you not to leave because I'd go berserk?? Well... You left me anyhow and then the days got worse and worse and now you see I've gone completely out of my mind.. And.. They're coming to take me away, ha-haaa!! They're coming to take me away, ho-ho, hee-hee, ha-haaa To the funny farm. Where life is beautiful all the time and I'll be happy to see those nice young men in their clean white coats and they're coming to take me away, ha-haaa!!!!!
You thought it was a joke and so you laughed, you laughed when I had said that loosing you would make me flip my lid.. RIGHT??? I know you laughed, I heard you laugh, you laughed you laughed and laughed and then you left, but now you know I'm utterly mad... And..
They're coming to take me away, ha-haaa, They're coming to take me away, ho-ho, hee-hee, ha-haaa. To the happy home. With trees and flowers and chirping birds and basket weavers who sit and smile and twiddle their thumbs and toes and they're coming to take me away, ha-haaa!!!
I cooked your food, I cleaned your house, and this is how you pay me back for all my kind unselfish loving deeds.. Huh?? Well you just wait, they'll find you yet and when they do they'll put you in the ASPCA, you mangy mutt!!! And...
They're coming to take me away, ha-haaa. They're coming to take me away, ho-ho, hee-hee, ha-haaa. To the funny farm, where life is beautiful all the time and I'll be happy to see those nice young men in their clean white coats and they're coming to take me away, ha-haaa!!! To the happy home, with trees and flowers and chirping birds and basket weavers who sit and smile and twiddle their thumbs and toes and they're coming to take me away, ha-haa!!! To the funny farm, where life is beautiful all the time... (fade out)
Hey, buddy! Yes officer.. You a head? No, but I'm catching up, ha ha ha....
Recovered marriage, recovering self, life gets better everyday
If you'll only give me time All the heartache that he left behind Will fade from my mind I'll be free to love again
If you'll only give me time I'll forget I even knew his name Forget that he came I'll be no good till I can Try to understand But when I'm sure I need him no more That's when I'll reach out for your hand
So darling give me time And you will see that I'm Ready to love you Just as you love me Wait awhile 'Til I can find my smile And I'll be yours for as long as I live If you'll only give me time, yeah
So darling give me time And you will see that I'm Ready to love you Just as you love me, oh Wait awhile 'Til I can find my smile And I'll be yours for as long as I live If you'll only give me time
I haven't heard this song in forever, until the other day...and it's so wonderful. I had forgotten!
Linger - The Cranberries
If you, if you could return Dont let it burn, dont let it fade Im sure Im not being rude But its just your attitude Its tearing me apart Its ruining everything And I swore, I swore I would be true And honey so did you So why were you holding her hand Is that the way we stand Were you lying all the time Was it just a game to you
But Im in so deep You know Im such a fool for you You got me wrapped around your finger Do you have to let it linger Do you have to, do you have to Do you have to let it linger
Oh, I thought the world of you I thought nothing could go wrong But I was wrong I was wrong If you, if you could get by Trying not to lie Things wouldnt be so confused And I wouldnt feel so used But you always really knew I just wanna be with you
And Im in so deep You know Im such a fool for you You got me wrapped around your finger Do you have to let it linger Do you have to. do you have to Do you have to let it linger
...for some reason this song has been playing in my head the last couple of days. I think it fits the thread, so:
"Wild World" by Cat Stevens
Now that I've lost everything to you, you say you want to start something new, and it's breaking my heart you're leaving, baby I'm grieving.
But if you wanna leave take good care, hope you have a lot of nice things to wear, but then a lot of nice things turn bad out there.
Oh baby baby it's a wild world, it's hard to get by just upon a smile. Oh baby baby it's a wild world.
I'll always remember you like a child, girl. You know I've seen a lot of what the world can do, and it's breaking my heart in two, cause I never want to see you sad girl, don't be a bad girl, but if you want to leave take good care, hope you make a lot of nice friends out there, but just remember there's a lot of bad and beware, beware,
Oh baby baby it's a wild world, it's hard to get by just upon a smile Oh baby baby it's a wild world, and I'll always remember you like a child, girl.
Baby I love you, but if you wanna leave take good care, hope you make a lot of nice friends out there, but just remember there's a lot of bad, and beware, beware,
oh baby baby it's a wild world, it's hard to get by just upon a smile. Oh baby baby it's a wild world, and I'll always remember you like a child, girl.
BH(me): 40ish FWW:(ILMH) 28yo DS 3yo Married 7yrs Together 10 yrs
??? Spring '07 - Adultery Begins 8/25/07 - 1st D-day (week of our anniv.) 8/07 thru 5/08 - About a dozen D-days/Gaslighting/Flaunting/Fake Recoveries
She finally quit on...
1/1/08 - First real NC attempt(Maybe?) 3/1/08 - Told me OM is an A**hole.(Hope?) 5/3/08 - D-day (Admitted to PA once) 5/4/08 - Latest D-day(Finally confessed to multiple EA/PA in our home) 5/8/08 - Present Struggling to hold on
Baby we can talk all night But that aint getting us nowhere I told you everything I possibly can Theres nothing left inside of here And maybe you can cry all night But thatll never change the way that I feel The snow is really piling up outside I wish you wouldnt make me leave here
I poured it on and I poured it out I tried to show you just how much I care Im tired of words and Im too hoarse to shout But youve been cold to me so long Im crying icicles instead of tears
And all I can do is keep on telling you I want you I need you But -- there aint no way Im ever gonna love you Now dont be sad cause two out of three aint bad Now dont be sad cause two out of three aint bad
Youll never find your gold on a sandy beach Youll never drill for oil on a city street I know youre looking for a ruby in a mountain of rocks But there aint no coupe de ville hiding at the bottom of a cracker jack box
I cant lie I cant tell you that Im something Im not No matter how I try Ill never be able To give you something Something that I just havent got
Theres only one girl that I will ever love And that was so many years ago And though I know Ill never get her out of my heart She never loved me back Ooh I know I remember how she left me on a stormy night She kissed me and got out of our bed And though I pleaded and I begged her not to walk out that door She packed her bags and turned right away
And she kept on telling me She kept on telling me She kept on telling me I want you I need you But there aint no way Im ever gonna love you Now dont be sad cause two out of three aint bad I want you I need you But there aint no way Im ever gonna love you Now dont be sad cause two out of three aint bad Dont be sad cause two out of three aint bad
Baby we can talk all night But that aint getting us nowhere
Recovered marriage, recovering self, life gets better everyday
Y'all make me feel like a fetus with some of this stuff.
*** NIN - That's what i get *** Just when everything was making sense. You took away all my self confidence. Now all that i've been hearing must be true. I guess i'm not the only boy for you. Chorus: but that's what i get That's what i get That's what i get That's what i get How could you turn us into this? After you just taught me how to kiss you. I told you i'd never say goodbye. I'm slipping on the tears you made me cry. But that's what i get. That's what i get. That's what i get. That's what i get. For trusting you. That's what i get. Why does it come as a surprise. To think that i was so naive. Maybe didn't mean too much. But it meant everything to me. Chorus
And the music to be playing when the WS gets home after a nuc-ul-lar exposure.
RMX, how about this one? I used to listen to this whenever I was really, really angry!
NIN - Piggy
hey pig yeah you hey pig piggy pig pig pig all of my fears came true black and blue and broken bones you left me here I'm all alone my little piggy needed something new nothing can stop me now I don't care anymore nothing can stop me now I just don't care hey pig nothing's turning out the way I planned hey pig there's a lot of things I hoped you could help me understand what am I supposed to do I lost my sh*t because of you nothing can stop me now I don't care anymore nothing can stop me now I just don't care nothing can stop me now you don't need me anymore
i only like that song when my inspection sticker on my windshield is expired.
No offense MEDC.
... I am utterly shocked I tell you.. SHOCKED
That not one person has mentioned Gloria Gaynor's " I will survive"
...i dont know why but also SemiSonic's Closing time was also a song i listened to alot after D-Day.
Closing time Open all the doors and let you out into the world Closing time Turn all of the lights on over every boy and every girl Closing time One last call for alcohol, so finish your whiskey or beer Closing time You don't have to go home but you can't stay here
I know who I want to take me home I know who I want to take me home I know who I want to take me home Take me home
Closing time Time for you to go out to the places you will be from Closing time This room won't be open till your brothers or your sisters come So gather up your jackets Move it to the exits I hope you have found a friend Closing time Every new beginning comes from some other beginning's end Yeah
Last edited by RMX; 07/10/0801:27 AM.
FBH 34 me,FWW 34, DS 14, OC-D 12 (given up for adoption), DS-8, DD-5 D-Day#1 10-12-1998 D-Day#2 2-10-2008 Recovered!
How 'bout a round of applause Yeah... Standing ovation Oohhhh... yeah Yeah yeah yeah yeah...
You look so dumb right now Standing outside my house Trying to apologize You're so ugly when you cry Please, just cut it out
[Chorus] Don't tell me you're sorry cause you're not Baby when I know you're only sorry you got caught But you put on quite a show You really had me going But now it's time to go Curtain's finally closing That was quite a show Very entertaining But it's over now Go on and take a bow
Grab your clothes and get gone You better hurry up before the sprinklers come on Talkin' about, girl, I love you, you're the one This just looks like the re-run Please, what else is on
[Chorus]
And don't tell me you're sorry cause you lied Baby when I know you're only sorry you got caught But you put on quite a show You really had me going But now it's time to go Curtain's finally closing That was quite a show Very entertaining But it's over now Go on and take a bow
And the award for the best liar goes to you For making me believe that you could be Faithful to me Lets hear your speech ohh
How about a round of applause A standing ovation
[Chorus] But you put on quite a show You really had me going But now it's time to go Curtain's finally closing That was quite a show Very entertaining But it's over now Go on and take a bow
But it's over now
Married 1996 4 wonderful children 16, 13 *OC*, 10, 7 FWW 30's FWH 30's My dday 1-2007 he came clean to me
My WH HATES that song here another slightly more up to date one for RMX
Jordon Spark - tattoo
Oh, oh, oh
No matter what you say about love I keep coming back for more Keep my hand in the fire Sooner or later, I'll get what I'm asking for
No matter what you say about life I learn every time I bleed That truth is a stranger Soul is in danger, I gotta let my spirit be free
To admit that I'm wrong And then change my mind Sorry but I have to move on And leave you behind
[Chorus] I can't waste time so give it a moment I realize, nothing's broken No need to worry 'bout everything I've done Live every second like it was my last one Don't look back at a new direction I loved you once, needed protection You're still a part of everything I do You're on my heart just like a tattoo
(Just like a tattoo, I'll always have you I'll always have you, I'll always have you)
I'm sick of playing all of these games It's not about taking sides When I looked in the mirror, didn't deliver It hurt enough to think that I could
Stop, admit that I'm wrong And then change my mind Sorry but I gotta be strong And leave you behind
[Chorus]
(Just like a tattoo, I'll always have you I'll always have you)
[Bridge] If I live every moment Won't change any moment Still a part of me and you I will never regret you Still the memory of you Marks everything i do
[Chorus x2]
Just like a tattoo I'll always have you
Recovered marriage, recovering self, life gets better everyday
After seeing one of my friends self distruct and trying to help her out of it all This song came to mind
Timbaland Apologize
I'm holding on your rope Got me ten feet off the ground And I'm hearing what you say But I just can't make a sound You tell me that you need me Then you go and cut me down But wait... You tell me that you're sorry Didn't think I'd turn around and say...
That it's too late to apologize, it's too late I said it's too late to apologize, it's too late
I'd take another chance, take a fall, take a shot for you And I need you like a heart needs a beat (But that's nothing new) Yeah yeah
I loved you with a fire red, now it's turning blue And you say Sorry like the Angel Heaven let me think was you, But I'm afraid
It's too late to apologize, it's too late I said it's too late to apologize, it's too late Woahooo woah
It's too late to apologize, it's too late I said it's too late to apologize, it's too late I said it's too late to apologize, yeah I said it's too late to apologize, yeah
I'm holding on your rope Got me ten feet off the ground...
Married 1996 4 wonderful children 16, 13 *OC*, 10, 7 FWW 30's FWH 30's My dday 1-2007 he came clean to me
You walk on like a woman in suffering Won't even bother now to tell me why You come along, letting all of us savor the moment Leaving me broken another time
You come on like a bloodstained hurricane Leave me alone, let me be this time You carry on like a holy man pushing redemption I don't want to mention, the reason I know
That I am Stricken and can't let you go When the heart is cold, there's no hope, and we know That I am crippled by all that you've done Into the abyss will I run!-
AH! AH! AH! OW!
You don't know what your power has done to me I want to know if I'll heal inside I can't go on with a holocaust about to happen Seeing you laughing another time
You'll never know why your face has haunted me My very soul has to bleed this time Another hole in the wall of my inner defenses Leaving me breathless, the reason I know
That I am stricken and can't let you go When the heart is cold, there's no hope, and we know That I am crippled by all that you've done Into the abyss will I run!-
Into the abyss will I run!
AHHHHHH!
You walk on like a woman in suffering Won't even bother now to tell me why You come along, letting all of us savor the moment Leaving me broken another time
You come on like a bloodstained hurricane Leave me alone, let me be this time You carry on like a holy man pushing redemption No One to mention, the reason I know
That I am stricken and can't let you go When the heart is cold, there's no hope, and we know That I am crippled by all that you've done Into the abyss will I run!-
Into the abyss will I run!- I can't let you go! Yes I am stricken and can't let you go!!
BS-me 36 FWW-34 DS-7 & DS-3 PA - 7/06-8/06 EA - 6/06-1/07 D-Day: wife confessed 2-17-07, suspected 8-02-06 Broke NC: 2-19-07, 3-24-07, 5/07 My Story My Wife's Story --------------------- Healing one day at a time.....
You think youre going to live your life alone In darkness and seclusion... yeah, I know Youve been out there and tried to mix with those animals And it just left you full of humiliated confusion So you stagger back home and wait for nothing But the solitary refinement of your room spits you back onto the streets And now youre desperate and in need of human contact And then you meet me and your whole world changes Because everything I say is everything youve ever wanted to hear So you drop all you defenses, and you drop all your fears Im perfect in every way cause I make you feel so strong and so powerfull inside You feel so lucky But your ego obscures reality that you never bothered to Wonder why things are going so well You want to know why?
cause Im a liar, yeah, Im a liar Ill tear (rip) your mind up, Ill burn your soul Ill turn you into me, Ill turn you into me cause Im a liar, a liar, a liar, a liar...
Ill hide behind a smile and understanding eyes And Ill tell you things that you already know so you can say: I really identify with you, so much And all the time that youre needing me is just the time That Im bleeding you, dont you get it yet? Ill come to you like an affliction then Ill leave you like an addiction Youll never forget me... wou wanna know why?
I dont know why I feel the need to lie and cause you so much pain Maybe its something inside, maybe its something I cant explain cause all I do is mess you up and lie to you Im a liar, ooh, Im a liar But if youll give me another chance I swear Ill never lie to you again cause now I see the destructive power of a lie, Theyre stronger than truth I cat believe I ever hurt you, I swear I will never lie to you again Please, just give me more chance, Ill never lie to you again, no, I swear, I will never tell a lie, I will neer tell a lie, no, no Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha! sucker! sucker! sucker!
I am a liar, yeah, I am a liar, yeah, I am a liar I lie you, I feel good, I am a liar, yeah I lie x4 ooh, I lie, yeah, I lie Im a liar, I lie, I like it, I feel good, I like it, and again I like it again and Ill keep lying, Ill promise
I want you to know, that I am happy for you I wish nothing but the best for you both An older version of me Is she perverted like me? Would she go down on you in a theater? Does she speak eloquently And would she have your baby? I'm sure she'd make a really excellent mother
'Cause the love that you gave that we made Wasn't able to make it enough for you To be open wide, No And every time you speak her name Does she know how you told me You'd hold me until you died Till you died, but you're still alive
And I'm here, to remind you Of the mess you left when you went away It's not fair, to deny me Of the cross I bear that you gave to me You, you, you oughta know
You seem very well, things look peaceful I'm not quite as well, I thought you should know Did you forget about me, Mr. Duplicity? I hate to bug you in the middle of dinner It was a slap in the face How quickly I was replaced And are you thinking of me when you [censored] her?
'Cause the love that you gave that we made Wasn't able to make it enough for you To be open wide, No And every time you speak her name Does she know how you told me You'd hold me until you died Till you died, but you're still alive
And I'm here, to remind you Of the mess you left when you went away It's not fair, to deny me Of the cross I bear that you gave to me You, you, you oughta know
Ohh... aah... ahh... ahh...
'Cause the joke that you laid in the bed That was me and I'm not gonna fade As soon as you close your eyes, and you know it And every time I scratch my nails Down someone else's back I hope you feel it Well, can you feel it?
And I'm here, to remind you Of the mess you left when you went away It's not fair, to deny me Of the cross I bear that you gave to me You, you, you oughta know
And I'm here, to remind you Of the mess you left when you went away It's not fair, to deny me Of the cross I bear that you gave to me You, you, you oughta know
Married 1996 4 wonderful children 16, 13 *OC*, 10, 7 FWW 30's FWH 30's My dday 1-2007 he came clean to me
You walk on like a woman in suffering Won't even bother now to tell me why You come along, letting all of us savor the moment Leaving me broken another time
You come on like a bloodstained hurricane Leave me alone, let me be this time You carry on like a holy man pushing redemption I don't want to mention, the reason I know
That I am Stricken and can't let you go When the heart is cold, there's no hope, and we know That I am crippled by all that you've done Into the abyss will I run!-
AH! AH! AH! OW!
You don't know what your power has done to me I want to know if I'll heal inside I can't go on with a holocaust about to happen Seeing you laughing another time
You'll never know why your face has haunted me My very soul has to bleed this time Another hole in the wall of my inner defenses Leaving me breathless, the reason I know
That I am stricken and can't let you go When the heart is cold, there's no hope, and we know That I am crippled by all that you've done Into the abyss will I run!-
Into the abyss will I run!
AHHHHHH!
You walk on like a woman in suffering Won't even bother now to tell me why You come along, letting all of us savor the moment Leaving me broken another time
You come on like a bloodstained hurricane Leave me alone, let me be this time You carry on like a holy man pushing redemption No One to mention, the reason I know
That I am stricken and can't let you go When the heart is cold, there's no hope, and we know That I am crippled by all that you've done Into the abyss will I run!-
Into the abyss will I run!- I can't let you go! Yes I am stricken and can't let you go!!
I was just listening to Disturbed on the way to work today. What a coincidence to see this posted here this morning.
Here is another one by them that seems to suit my situation....especially this part....
"Pain Redefined"
Fading, falling, lost in forever Will I find a way to keep it together? Am I strong enough to last through the weather in the hurricane of my life? Can it be a conscious decision? That I look for ways to alter my vision? Am I speeding towards another collision in the alleyways of my life?
Memories don't lie You know better than Memories don't lie You know better than Memories don't lie You know better than Those who have fallen in Memories don't lie You know better than Memories don't lie You know better than Memories don't lie You know better than Those who have fallen in
Please believe me That my eyes deceive me? Don't stand me up Just leave me I have fallen again This is the end Pain redefined
[color:#993300]Shaking, burning up with the fever In the realm of pain, I am the deceiver Now I lie to myself, so I can believe her As she dissembles my life I cannot dispel the illusion All my hopes and dreams are drowned by confusion Can I find a way to make a solution that will reconfigure my life?
Memories don't lie You know better than Memories don't lie You know better than Memories don't lie You know better than Those who have fallen in Memories don't lie You know better than Memories don't lie You know better than Memories don't lie You know better than Those who have fallen in
Please believe me That my ears deceive me Don't stand me up Just leave me I have fallen again This is the end Pain redefined
And I know that stillness shatters We have all been frightened by the The sound of footsteps on the pavement of our lives I stand and fight I'm not afraid to die Elochai, bury me tonight
Please believe me That the world decieves me Don't stand me up Just leave I have fallen again This is the end Pain redefined[/color]
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"Rather than love, than money, than fame, give me truth"
I really love this "music therapy" thread. I am a music teacher and I associate all my feelings, hopes, and dreams into song. This is very healing for your soul!
I update my profile on myspace to show what I am thinking and feeling. Here is one I can't seem to post there, but really describes my for right now.
I always enjoyed this song by Serj Tankian, the lead singer of System of a Down, but after Dday, it has taken on a new meaning. Of course, his meaning is different from mine
Saving Us - Serj Tankian
Why do we sit around and Break each other's hearts tonight? Why do we dance around The issues 'till the morning light? When we sit and talk And tear each other's lives apart. You were the one to tell me go...
But you were the one for me, And now you're going through the door, When you take that step I love you baby more and more, We need to laugh and sing and cry And warm each other's hearts tonight, Having fun of everything And loving all of mother god
In the video, they have different people holding up signs of evils of the world. They had a little girl hold up a divorce sign and I just about lost it...*sigh*. Just a little info in case anyone else is in that frame of mind.
You have your way. I have my way. As for the right way, the correct way, and the only way, it does not exist. ~ Friedrich Nietzsche
The person who is always finding fault seldom finds anything else.