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Re: BS in trouble I think....unsure what to do...
schoolbus #2099511 07/28/08 12:16 PM
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You're mourning the loss of your marriage. It's ok. Mourn it.

You may blame yourself and what you did was wrong, but let yourself mourn.

I'd rather see a WH admit his wrongs and actually take time to mourn his marriage than one interested in jumping into another relationship.

Personally, I think you need to take a break from women, get a therapist, discuss the issues with him/her, and figure out a lot of stuff. That way, you can address what your weaknesses are.

Best of luck.

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She moved away with the kids April 08. I contested it and got a lot more time with my kids. She's unhappy that I want to stay involved in their lives and don't settle for being an "every other weekend" dad.

Never going to happen.

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Re: BS in trouble I think....unsure what to do...
blackntwrk #2100241 07/29/08 03:18 PM
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Have the counselor...just not the acceptance...

Counselor, and frankly most around me...telling me same. Looking back is to be used to inform the future now...I think all the looking back feels like looking at an accident scene, you know? Compelling...but dark. I am trying to use the information well. I have learned a lot. My Mom says maybe that is what I am supposed to do...and use this new learning to be a better person, parent, friend....

SB: Will you ever feel fully invested with your spouse?
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