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Paranoia IS understandable.
Exposing to OM's W is the best exposure you can do. With you watching WW and OM's W watching her WH, they'll be squirming under all the visibility.
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Don't encourage her to do anything. It will backfire on you. Let her make her own decisions. If anything, you can keep in touch to compare notes on whether the A stopped, but I wouldn't do anything else.
Please don't let your W play you when you see her. Be strong. If she gets mad, accuses you, just stay calm and say "I'm fighting for our marriage." Be strong and know you're doing the right thing.
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Good. Let her stew. That means it's working.
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Talk to one of the moderators about getting a new user name if you truely think she has 'found' you and your safe place is being taken away.
So far my WH has 'found' me twice, so i know how you feel.
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And I just noticed she took me off her friends list on myspace
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I also emailed the "mind of a Wayward Spouse" to me from work and I'm pretty sure she saw it.
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Do it anyway.
The first time my WH found me, he discovered I was planing on exposing to OW parents. he shouted at me for half an hour, then acted liked nothing had happred 2 days later. i didnt expose at that stage beacause of what happened.
Two months later I did end up exposing to OW parents and it did cause a huge rift between WH and OW.
So my advice, do it, do it now.
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I also emailed the "mind of a Wayward Spouse" to me from work and I'm pretty sure she saw it. Good, hopefully she read it and got the message
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"I am fighting for my marriage"
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Which one of you is in the right? You are. Don't listen to her, don't believe her, don't do what she says, just keep repeating "I'm sorry you feel that way. I'm saving our marriage." It will infuriate her, but it is the only way to get your marriage back. It will hurt to have her 'hate' you for right now, but 6 months from now, you have a great chance of having her thank you for helping her out of this abyss.
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And I just noticed she took me off her friends list on myspace Yup -looks like the proverbial cr*p is hitting the fan. You have a significant advantage though - you are *prepared* for this, you *knew* it was coming. Your WW on the other hand is likely now desperately trying to prevent her A-bubble fantasy from collapsing all around her. Just keep cool and remember why you are doing this - to SAVE your M, and to do so the A must end. I do have one concern though - your child is currently with your WW. This could present custody issues if your WW does choose to proceed with a D.
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I agree. I'd get with the legal authorities and see how you can get your child back.
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It will hurt to have her 'hate' you for right now, but 6 months from now, you have a great chance of having her thank you for helping her out of this abyss. Man, I don't know if I can go 6 months. It's only been three weeks or so since she's moved out and I miss them two SO MUCH!! I just want my family back so bad.
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