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Has anyone applied these techniques in the context of a married cuckold relationship?
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Has anyone applied these techniques in the context of a married cuckold relationship? Umm.... I'm not exactly sure... are you asking if MB principles are applicable in a relationship where the Wife sleeps around while she subjects her husband to degrading treatment and the husband consents to it? I refuse to share my opinion until your question is clarified.
FBH 34 me,FWW 34,
DS 14, OC-D 12 (given up for adoption), DS-8, DD-5
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Do you mean you have an open marriage?
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simply that it is open for her and not for me. it's not degrading.
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Are you saying that in your marriage vows she didn't vow to fidelity and you did?
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How did this open marriage for WW come about?
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Caring,
I think we would need a lot more information about the state of your marriage and what you want to accomplish in this marriage, before you will get an answer that is useful to you.
I will tell you up front, Dr. Harley dealt with people that had addictions before he became reknowned for his ideas on marriage. He will not counsel someone about their marriage until the addictions whatever they may be are addressed.
So the real question is about your marriage and your W's attitude about many things including men in her life. If she is addicted to sex for example, I doubt MB can help until that is addressed. If you don't feel she is addicted then perhaps it might help.
After all the principles here are pretty fundamental to human behavior and interaction.
I look forward to hearing from you.
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I have the impression you agreed the marriage is open for her. Is that correct? That's not a trick question simply to judge. Tell us more about your situation, and your feelings on it. What areas of your marriage would you like to improve?
Personally, I think MB concepts can work in unconventional relationships as well. Apply the POJA (Policy of Joint Agreement) when making decisions....
Consider how hard it is to change yourself and you'll understand what little chance you have in trying to change others.
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