I know of a few I've gone out with that have preferred the extra padding.
Being open with her felt really good. I feel like I can playfully joke with her about things as long as I don't overdo it.
She mentioned that she expected God to just drop the man she's supposed to be with at her doorstep in a UPS box. I joked with her when the conversation continued that if I had any inkling that she felt more for me that I'd dress up as a UPS box and show up at her doorstep, which made her laugh pretty hard.
I just want to clarify that I said she had a WH. It's an exwh. Just to be clear.
The 30 pounds thing is something i've been saying for a while now. I start to make it a reality and something sets me back.
Lately it's been excuses and I have to stop making them.
There's no major pending litigation, so I simply need to do it.
I can start by eating less. Stress leads to comfort eating, which I need to stop. That alone would help a lot.
It helps to know that my shoulder has a real problem that needs to be fixed. I can focus my workouts on running.
I'll do what I call the "Star Trek" workout, which worked great years ago. I put in an episode of ST on the DVD and run until it ends. It's roughly 5 miles of running. Do that 4 times a week and you get in really good shape. It's a nerd workout, but hey, who cares.

I started varying it by adding Quantum Leap and I can always add my current favorite "Battlestar Galactica" to the mix.
I just need to do it.
It feels good to know how she feels and where she stands instead of the mental gymnastics I was going through trying to figure it out.