I don't have time to look it up on your thread so pardon my laziness, whose idea was it to keep the OC and raise it?
This isn't to prove something, I just wanted to know.
I will surley parden your lazieness.
(also it's not in the thread)
Abortion was never an option. My wife is, and has always been viamantly against abortion. She was that way from the time I met her till now, and I am sure will continu to be. I am pro choice as far as the law is concerned, but pro life for my own choices. I would not ask, nor expect her to abort the baby to save the marriage (and she would not anyway) It's not the childs fault.
I offered to take her and the child. So I guess you could say it was my idea. I offered to take her back and rais the child as my own.
Odly, she breifly brought up the possability of adoption several weeks ago. But I dont think she meant it or could go through with it, and if she did I think she would regret it for the rest of her life. I could not, and will not ask her, or any woman to give up there child to save a marriage. Perhaps I am wrong in that, but thats my feelings.
But if she decided to give it up for adoption, I would support her. I am almost positive that she is terrified of the OM taking custody of it. She would probably rather it be adopted then givin soley over to him.
I guess thats kinda contradictory. It's hard for me to explain, and as has been proven I am not very good at relaying information/fealings in a well orginized or easily understood way.
