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Re: I feel like the other woman in my own marraige
Lexxxy #2118491 08/29/08 06:08 PM
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I do realize you are all right. Thank you for responding today...I needed that today!
Re: I feel like the other woman in my own marraige
sinkingin #2118492 08/29/08 06:13 PM
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When he wakes up I will make sure he goes. I can hear him now though..."I don't have anywhere to go".

Have you written a PBL?

There's a wealth of info available for free here on this website. I didn't read HNHN until a couple months ago. But almost all of the info is available online. If you're worried that he find something, does that mean you can read here without worrying about that?

Also, why are you so worried about him finding out that you're reading a marriage self-help book?

And finally, if you've read the stuff here, then you know Plan A shouldn't last a year.

If you're sending him packing, are you gonna do it the MB Plan B way, with a PBL? What are your boundaries/requirements? Did you have one last memorable Plan A experience first?

me - 47 tired
H - 39 cool
married 2001
DS 8a think
DS 8b :crosseyedcrazy:
(Why is DS7b now a blockhead???)
(Ack! Now he's not even a blockhead, just a word! That's no fun!)
Re: I feel like the other woman in my own marraige
sinkingin #2118493 08/29/08 06:18 PM
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I just read more again...about plan A plan B I have done nothing but be thoughtful this whole time...to a point that he is convinced that he is the victim here. I will need to know what to write in a letter to him.
Re: I feel like the other woman in my own marraige
sinkingin #2118496 08/29/08 06:24 PM
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we had a very nice night last night we actually laid on the couch when he got home for a while...he went to the gym then we were intimate when the kids went to bed, and then fell asleep together. I feel so manipulated...like I move away he lures me in and she moves away he lures her in?...I know that my asking questions and confronting that doesn't do any good, but it is the only way I can feel like I am not allowing it to go on. ( I know that I am "allowing" it to go on) I am going to go to the section you suggested. I'm sure Lexxy is like yeah right, but I will get it done! I have to. Thank you both.
Re: I feel like the other woman in my own marraige
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Re: I feel like the other woman in my own marraige
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Originally Posted by sinkingin
I just read more again...about plan A plan B I have done nothing but be thoughtful this whole time...to a point that he is convinced that he is the victim here. I will need to know what to write in a letter to him.

Plan A is not about being a doormat. Ah well, I guess that doesn't matter now, IMHO you don't need to spend more time perfecting Plan A. If you had a good evening last night, it's a good time for Plan B.

There are examples of PBL here. Let us know if you need help finding them.

*hugs*

It should feel good, scary but good, to have a plan and take some action.

me - 47 tired
H - 39 cool
married 2001
DS 8a think
DS 8b :crosseyedcrazy:
(Why is DS7b now a blockhead???)
(Ack! Now he's not even a blockhead, just a word! That's no fun!)
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