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Re: I just need help. I'm exhausted.
Emmy35 #2107023 08/08/08 11:22 PM
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Originally Posted by Emmy35
Also, in regards to me being hesitant to disclose the A-

I have been in counseling with my Pastor since the A ended and his recommendation was not to tell my H about it. That was why I was asking so rigorously whether or not it was necessary.

That is surprisingly common unfortunately from clueless clergy.

Know thais: Without disclosure, you can forget about true intimacy with your husband ever again.

Dave Carder, a Christian writer, in "Torn Assunder" writes about a marriage where an affair was hidden for 40 years before disclosure. It was a very sad story.

Your pastor is wrong. Very wrong.

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Re: I just need help. I'm exhausted.
Emmy35 #2107033 08/09/08 12:16 AM
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Emmy:

I have slightly different road to go on this. Just out of curiosity, have you ever thought your husband might be having an affair? Do you have kids and if yes, what are their ages?

See, I smell something here that is unsaid. I haven't a clue what it is, just that something is missing. How old are you and how old is your husband?

Larry
Re: I just need help. I'm exhausted.
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