Sorry I've kind of let this thread die. I've been on vacation.

The kids and I returned home Saturday to find a note stuck in our door. It was from a lady I do not know stating that she needed to talk to me about my W and her H.

I called the number attached only to learn that WW is now dating another preacher...while pregnant by a different preacher. Apparently, the lady I spoke with had moved out several months ago, but neither she nor he have filed any official seperation papers.

She was VERY upset that WW was "laying around her house all day like a common whore in front of her kids."

Calmly, I explained that, while I was sorry for the impact on her family, I really could not care less what WW was doing and that nothing at this point surprised me.

Just wanted to share this. I'm sure some were wondering where I went.

Truly Amazing!

Absolutely aMAZing. I don't know what to say, about this new low of WW's.

What about helping this woman, pointing her to MB for starters? She basically is in the position a lot of folks here have been in, when they contact the OP's BS, to expose and hopefully get help with verifying, gathering clues, etc. You'd have to explain that you can't get involved in contacting WW, but you could give her information she may be able to use. You could point her in the right direction, if she wants to save her M or start filing for D. You could explain about exposing.

Holy cow, another preacher??? What's going on with those guys??? IMHO this should be reported, if not by you than by OMW.

Wait, are you saying that your WW is having another A w/ another married pastor?

And the BW contacted you about it?

If that's what happened, how about directing that BW here?

Whose kids did she mean here?

The BW's kids?

Please send her here, ab.

First things first! Did you and the kids have a wonderful vacation? How are they doing?

OK, now to the junk. DOCUMENT EVERYTHING! While you are very wise to remove yourself from the drama, when info like this falls in your lap, get it down on paper.. just in case WW decides somewhere down the road she wants to fight you for custody. Don't obssess over it, just quietly file it away, then get on with your new life and be grateful you are free of the horror that was your old life.

YES...I am saying that WW is now seeing ANOTHER preacher!

His wife was speaking of HER kids, though I do know that my WW introduced MY kids to this man at a church service during one of their visits.

Honestly, I didn't even think of guiding this woman to MB, though I got the impression that I will indeed be speaking to her again.

I did offer to help HER anyway that I could, though I did make it clear that I was unaffected by this news.

Apparently, the two of them are living seperatly, though neither have filed for seperation yet...and she seemed very upset that he was seeing WW.

BTW, my papers are officially filed. WW has NOT hired an attorney and at this point is agreeing to my terms (FULL custody, child support, alimony, limited visitation, etc...). In 90 days, the legal side of this will all be over!

I am just thinking how glad I am that WW is not going to have much access to the kids. If she is going through men this quickly, your poor children would no doubt be exposed to some real losers. Both your daughters (and even possibly your son) could easily be exposed to sexually abusive behavior from these men.

AW3, perhaps I missed it somewhere but what's going on with the adoption?

I may not have updated about the adoption lately...sorry.

It appears we will have a hearing on Sept 2nd to sign placement agreements and work out the details for the baby's NEW birth certificate. Nothing's over until it's over...but it looks like I will indeed be allowed to adopt her all by myself! She will be one of a very few children with a birth certificate with only a FATHER listed.

Also...this child IS NOT a part of ANY visitation agreement! She has not been for a visit in nearly 6 weeks, nor do I plan to send her ever again.

That's great news!!! I'll keep my fingers crossed for you!

I guess it looks like you made the right decision about your W. There is surely something broken in her. It's good to know that you're not consumed by the whys and hows and are moving on with your life with your precious kids. You're a good man and it's obvious the Lord is leading your life. (BTW, loved the Godtube video on your blog! I'm going to show it a few people. It's really powerful.)

I think that even if your WS were to find her way back to reality, she would still have YEARS of recovery. Maybe by time the kids are grown, she'll have straightened out her life completely but I'm afraid that her relationship with those kids is damaged forever.

I agree, please send the new BS to MB if you can. You know how she's feeling right about now.

Keep up the good work.

Thanks Princess...yeah, that's an awesome video!

I'm a little emberassed that I didn't recommend MB to this lady. It was obvious that she is still VERY jaded...and, you're right, I know EXACTLY how she feels!

It all brings the following to mind: "All things work together for good to them that love the Lord........"

How do you feel about contacting the BW yourself, to send her here, rather than just wait for her to contact you again? She may be too discouraged to try to contact you again, I dunno.

Uh...I got the impression she fully intended to keep in touch.

I'll probably give her a few days, then call her if I don't hear from her.

She had already spoken with WW and told me she planned to kick her a*#!! She said WW had pledged her love for her H and that she had been with him every day for several weeks (Remember, she now works weekends and he is a preacher...LOTS of free time!). In that state of mind, we couldn't exactly have a rational discussion...you know?

She was still at the point of wanting vengeance rather than help. But, I will definitely point her here at the first opportunity!

I know how much you guys helped me!!!

Wonder if stbxw has told new preacher OM that the baby is HIS, hence the "every day together" thing.

She sounds like such a predator.

Please keep YOUR kids as far away from her as legally possible.

Don't worry, we take all kinds, even the ones initially here for vengeance! If she sticks with us, we'll have her taking responsibility for her own actions, and becoming a better person for HERSELF and realizing she don't need no trash in her life, in no time!

If she isn't involved in an affair and is a competent mother, it sounds like she needs to get back in the house where her kids are, and get the OW (your WW) out of her house and away from her kids. She needs to expose, definitely to his place of work - all these adulterous preachers need to be stopped! They are in a position of authority and trust!

"Predator" is starting to sound like the PERFECT word to describe WW. Apparently, she just can't be alone, without a man, for any extended period of time.

I do find it odd that she seeks out men she views as spiritually superior to me (obviously, in title only) when their affiliation with her only proves the exact opposite. No wonder the church in general is so messed up these days!

I couldn't help but think when speaking with the jaded spouse of WW's NEW OM that it sounds as though she has also abandoned her children and left them with her H.

I did tell her that she could prove adultery pretty easily I felt but that she wouldn't want to if she was also guilty. Her response was, "No, unfortunately not," which made me lose interest in helping her at that point. Sounds like she was searching for an affair if you know what I mean. I will reach out to her again in time and tell her about MB.

She implied that her husband's family was aware of the relationship and not at all happy. This man is not only a pastor but also sings in a Southern Gospel Quartet with his three brothers and sister and I think maybe they fear losing that ministry as well.

She said that WW told her the pregnancy was the result of a "one-night stand" and mistake and did not claim that it was her H's. I did of course clear that lie up and explained that it was more like a 90-day mistake!

What a path of destruction and carnage WW is leavind these days! I'm SOOOOOO glad my children and I are clear of it for the most part. The kids do have a visit tonight after a week at the beach and they are already DREADING it! I really wish I could completely protect them from her like I can the baby!

I guess stbxww doesn't "get" that no matter the sugar coating, she still sounds like a tramp?

I'm grossed out on so many levels right now.

I'm so sorry AB3. You all deserve so much better than this.

The exact phrase she told OM's wife was, "I'm really not a wh*re, I'm a GOOD person and a Christian lady!"

My thoughts...If you have to actually tell someone you're not a wh*re in defense of yourself...you probably are one. Needless to say, I too am speechless...I don't really care anymore, but I NEVER knew what kind of person WW truly is!

Now, I just don't want my kids around this NEW OM either! They are setting no kind of an example for anyone...especially both of their kids!

Have you had the talk with your kids about predatory OM? Taught them how to protect themselves if he puts them in a situation? Many of them like boys, too, so please have both of them be careful and protect each other.