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Re: New Here Beachwalker #2110316 08/15/08 08:05 AM
Joined: Aug 2005 Posts: 4,554 M ManInMotion Member
ManInMotion Member M Joined: Aug 2005 Posts: 4,554	Originally Posted by Beachwalker CHECKED HER CELL RECORDS, LOOKED THROUGH HER ROOM AND CLOSET. bELIEVE ME THIS IS NOT ME. I FELT TERRIBLE DOING THIS. WE ONLY HAVE ONE EMAIL ACCOUNT SO I KNOW WHAT'S HAPPENING WITH THIS. UNLESS SHE'S SET UP SONMTHING SOMEWHERE ELSE It's pretty easy for someone to set up another e-mail account. I suggest installing a key-logger on the PC. I also suggest looking for another cell phone that she might be hiding away. Did she give you an explanation for the two days that she stayed away? Where and with whom did she stay? Did you confirm her story? ManInMotion =========== (see "MiM's Story" for more details)

Re: New Here ManInMotion #2110323 08/15/08 08:15 AM
Joined: May 2006 Posts: 982 L lake53 Member
lake53 Member L Joined: May 2006 Posts: 982	In addition to the key logger, what do you mean that you checked her cell records? Did you look at her cell phone, or did you look at the record of phone calls from the bill or from on-line? It is easy to delete phone calls on the cell phone. I agree that you should look for another cell phone too. Lake BW-53 FWH-54 H had EA 3 weeks 06 Married 1977 N C 4-10-06 3 DSs In Recovery

Re: New Here lake53 #2110334 08/15/08 08:29 AM
Joined: Aug 2008 Posts: 15 B Beachwalker OP Junior Member
OP Beachwalker Junior Member B Joined: Aug 2008 Posts: 15	Didn't ask where she was. She called asked how I was (my reply was why would you care?) She said she wanted me to know she was safe and wouldn't be coming home. Just looked at the bill

Re: New Here Beachwalker #2110337 08/15/08 08:33 AM
Joined: Aug 2005 Posts: 4,554 M ManInMotion Member
ManInMotion Member M Joined: Aug 2005 Posts: 4,554	Originally Posted by Beachwalker Didn't ask where she was. She called asked how I was (my reply was why would you care?) She said she wanted me to know she was safe and wouldn't be coming home. Sooooo....... Find out where she was (just ask her), then confirm her story. ManInMotion =========== (see "MiM's Story" for more details)

Re: New Here ManInMotion #2110343 08/15/08 08:39 AM
Joined: Aug 2008 Posts: 15 B Beachwalker OP Junior Member
OP Beachwalker Junior Member B Joined: Aug 2008 Posts: 15	Is that realy necessary? I don't care where she was. I just want her back.

Re: New Here Beachwalker #2110357 08/15/08 08:59 AM
Joined: May 2002 Posts: 2,965 T turtlehead Member
turtlehead Member T Joined: May 2002 Posts: 2,965	Originally Posted by Beachwalker Is that realy necessary? I don't care where she was. I just want her back. Why would you want her back if you don't even care where she was? If you truly care about HER and her safety, well-being, hopes, fears, interests, quirks, foibles, etc. wouldn't you want to know where she was, and why? This just does not make sense to me. ETA: Plus, if she's defensive and evasive then you know your radar is up with good reason. If she tells you she was at her Mom's or a friend's, you can call them and verify her story (of course, they MAY lie for her, but they probably won't and at any rate she'll know she's being watched). In addition to the key logger: GPS on the car with ability to record travels Voice activated recorder in the car Bug your land line Voice activated recorder in the bedroom Last edited by turtlehead; 08/15/08 09:01 AM. Emotional Needs Love Busters Plans A/B

Re: New Here turtlehead #2110384 08/15/08 09:34 AM
Joined: Aug 2008 Posts: 15 B Beachwalker OP Junior Member
OP Beachwalker Junior Member B Joined: Aug 2008 Posts: 15	you're right. It's not that I don't care. I guess I'm just afraid to know

Re: New Here Beachwalker #2110400 08/15/08 09:56 AM
Joined: May 2006 Posts: 982 L lake53 Member
lake53 Member L Joined: May 2006 Posts: 982	Originally Posted by Beachwalker you're right. It's not that I don't care. I guess I'm just afraid to know To quote a veteran poster here: Affairs THRIVE on secrecy. You must get to the bottom of this. If you want to save your marriage, you must find out what is going on in your marriage. This is the first step. FIND OUT WHAT IS GOING ON IN YOUR MARRIAGE. What did you find out from the cell phone bill? Lake BW-53 FWH-54 H had EA 3 weeks 06 Married 1977 N C 4-10-06 3 DSs In Recovery

Re: New Here Beachwalker #2110429 08/15/08 10:27 AM
Joined: May 2002 Posts: 2,965 T turtlehead Member
turtlehead Member T Joined: May 2002 Posts: 2,965	Originally Posted by Beachwalker you're right. It's not that I don't care. I guess I'm just afraid to know This attitude will kill your marriage, just like it can kill someone who suspects they may have cancer but refuse to go to the doctor because they're scared of what they might find out. I understand your fear, believe me. I've been in your shoes. Fear and inaction are NOT your friends now. You must be courageous and decisive. BobPure has a good way of putting it: Do you want to be ruled by fear, or by integrity? Emotional Needs Love Busters Plans A/B

Re: New Here lake53 #2110435 08/15/08 10:33 AM
Joined: Aug 2008 Posts: 15 B Beachwalker OP Junior Member
OP Beachwalker Junior Member B Joined: Aug 2008 Posts: 15	Found out nothing. #s are all girlfriends or work. I suspect an EF with her Boss. when he showed up at her birthday party (I was not included) her sister threw him out.

Re: New Here Beachwalker #2110493 08/15/08 12:05 PM
Joined: May 2002 Posts: 2,965 T turtlehead Member
turtlehead Member T Joined: May 2002 Posts: 2,965	Who organized the party, your WW or her sister? Was boss invited or did he just show up, do you know? Why did your SIL throw the boss out? Emotional Needs Love Busters Plans A/B

Re: New Here turtlehead #2110503 08/15/08 12:21 PM
Joined: Dec 2006 Posts: 2,965 C chrisner Member
chrisner Member C Joined: Dec 2006 Posts: 2,965	Quote (I was not included) Why were you not included in your wife's birthday party? Testosterone boys! Testosterone! It ain�t just for nose, ear and back hair anymore!

Re: New Here turtlehead #2110523 08/15/08 12:51 PM
Joined: Aug 2008 Posts: 15 B Beachwalker OP Junior Member
OP Beachwalker Junior Member B Joined: Aug 2008 Posts: 15	Wife organized the party. I was told the whole office was invited. SIL suspects the same as me. She often speaks her mind. wife has 2 sisters who feel she's making a mistake and have told her. Wife no longer talks to the sisters.

Re: New Here chrisner #2110525 08/15/08 12:53 PM
Joined: Aug 2008 Posts: 15 B Beachwalker OP Junior Member
OP Beachwalker Junior Member B Joined: Aug 2008 Posts: 15	Said she just wanted agirls night. I asked if I could take out on her birthday, her reply, "we'll see". I've come to know this means NO. BTW. I'm notr up on all the acronyms. can someone fill me in?

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