When I moved out to my own apt I stopped bringing it up. We just date, and I come by and see the kids, etc. We talk on the phone. I knew if I stayed there we'd just end up talking about it way too much. Time needs to pass. The only days that went by when I didn't think of it is when I had an RA. ie If your brain thinks you are moving on to someone else, the thoughts go away, at least in my case. I was thinking about OW all the time. SHE WAS HOT!!! hehe Once I got back w/ my wife, the triggers came back. Anti-depressants can help though.