My husband lives 3 1/2 hours away from home during the week because of his job. I discovered he had someone living with him and kicked her out right on the spot (it was our trailer in a trailer park). He said he didn't love her and was going to end it anyway. She made contact with him and wouldn't leave him alone so he brought the trailer home and started staying with some friends of ours during the week. Since this time he hasn't missed any time at home on weekends and has had daily contact with me and has continued to job search in our area. He has a reading/writing disability that makes it difficult to get a job so it may take awhile, but it makes me feel better knowing he is trying. There was a "fog" period followed by an "anger" period, but he has since returned to his former self. Someone posted a thread that gave the signs of what to expect when one is having an A, and that helped me a lot...I believe their behavior itself shows whether they are with us or not.

Hey Vows!!!
I know you! I'm sooo glad things are going much better. Keep up the good work.