Your X really has no reason nor incentive to remarry you. You have a good relationship with her and your daughter, you are paying child support and you are involved in your child's life. If you bail again, she will be inconvenienced at best, not devestated like she was the first time.

She seems like a smart woman. She has once again told you "no". Why aren't you willing to respect that and just leave well enough alone?

I respect the fact that she doesn't want to get with me. I am not begging, pleading, trying to force her back on me. Today, I did get needy and shouldn't have said what I did. But that was the first time I said such things in several months - so I've been good on my commitment on not focusing the relationship per se. However, that doesn't chance the fact that I still have feelings for her - that I still love her. The key here is to continue to be a good friend to her - to support her and my daughter and hope that over time she sees the changes in me. If she doesn't see the chances and doesn't want to come back, that is not going to stop me from doing the things I am doing now (being supportive, listening, just being a good friend who is there).

Men have a tendency to think that because I love her, she must love me too. If I am happy, she must be happy too.

Hmmm, sadly I think that is true. At least it rings true to me. Not so much just the love feeling, but if I feel this way then she must feel this way also or if I like this then she must like this also.

I admire your strength and courage to keep trying!!! I have recently found myself in a similar situation. I have been married for 11 years now 16 together we have 3 kids 18,14 and just turned 9. She kicked me out just before thanksgiving. After moving 6 states away to help her mother. I too admit I wasn't the husband and father I should have been or started out being. I became selfish wanting all the expensive toys for me and the kids.(I think some more for me) I also have changed in the last 3 weeks and want to do anything it takes to get us back together without any effort on her part. I also admit that the future divorce is all my fault, even though it does take 2. I am more than willing to work on it. But I also understand her point too she has tried for many years to tell me what was wrong and I just didn't want to listen. Or I would change for a few weeks or months but then go back to the same old thing knowing it was comfortable. I have made a few mistakes already in trying to get us back together. I am working on not making those same mistakes again and just going on into the future. I will do everything I possibly can to make her happy whether it leads to us getting back together or not! I just hope that I also have enough strength to hold out until that does happen or know that it never will be again. But I will continue no matter what to try and make her happy and regain her trust. I commend you on your new found devosion!!!