That's what they tell me SD. That's what they tell me......

Well, getting psyched up for the meeting tomorrow with the atty. Not sure how it will go, but I'm laying it on the line - fight for me or I walk.

My year is up this weekend, so I'm going to push this through. Based on possible medical bills that WH has, plus the fact that OP has probably drained him of any money and run up more debt, I need to get this finalized.

So, I'll fill you in tomorrow when I get out of there.

Good luck, Chai!!!

Chai

Charlotte

Well, my atty said that he would fight for me. He said he wanted to wait and see how the business did after the move before we went in with the gloves off.

I told him the bottom line is that a small business like this is not going to support me. He agrees that WH needs to help me so he is going to file for support this week. I have to get all of my financials together. Not sure how long all of this will take, but I'm tired now and just want to move it through. It just isn't fair that I'm working two jobs to scrape by while he left town with zero responsibility for all of this.

So, I feel better but I know it is going to be a major fight. I have to think of me first now though.....

Chai - does the retail biz have a website? I know people who might need some stash enhancement.

Yes, although I don't have a shopping cart up yet. If they see something that they like, they can call and we'll send.

Do you have an email? I'll send the info....

sure - cinderella4mb at yahoo dot com


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Stash is not incomplete projects
It is not wasted money
It is hopes and creativity not yet brought to completion

It is inspiration.....

I'm already committing lust in my wallet....but I have so much stash. So much!!!

We all do. Retirement projects.....

Stash?

Am I the only one who doesn't get it?

Women have hobbies.

When women have hobbies, they collect.

Stuff.

Stuff for the hobbies. They collect it.

They covet it.

They worship it.

Sometimes they display it

Sometimes they look at it.

Sometimes they actually USE it, but

Mostly they just store it.

Under beds.

In the trunks of their cars.

In the corners of closets.

In shoe boxes.

In bags disguised as garbage.

In their freezers disguised as pot roast.

That my friend, is STASH.

Probably.

Ah. Yes. Thanks.

And your business. . . do you perhaps purvey tools with which one might convert stash into useful artistic objects?

Wouldn't be the first time, I'm afraid, and it won't be the last. I spend a lot of time in absent-minded professor mode.

Yes. And actually, I also purvey the items that magically turn into stash when one walks out through the door of my shop. Although please don't tell them that it happens so soon after purchase. (They don't know that).

Got it.

Wouldn't dream of letting the cat out of the bag.

Okay. Gotta do some work so I can afford to acquire some of my own stash.

She purveys items which often cause intense sensual interest - tactile delight, visual delight. Items where you can take sticks and strings and make items of usefulness and beauty.

Well, looks like atty is going to file for D and try to get some support for me until I can get on my feet financially.

I didn't want this and said that I wouldn't be the one to file, but I am. A friend of DD told me today that DD said her Dad lives in that other state (OPs state).

Not sure why he isn't pushing it, but he isn't so I am going to. Now he can say "Chai filed, I didn't."

Whatever

For him, it's no big deal. He's been telling everyone we were D'd for 4 years now. Maybe it will be a relief that he doesn't have to lie anymore. Probably not a relief since he lies so easily.

So, I gave the OK to file. He won't be back so why should I sit here and put myself through this day after day.

Not sure how long it takes from this point, but I have a feeling it won't be before the end of the year.

Looks like we'll be filing joint taxes again.

My x filed then had it dismissed. After reaching the point that my body was suffering from the stress and that I needed to regain sanity in my life, I ended up filing. By that time, he had been gone from home 2.5 years. It no longer bothers me that I was the one who filed.

Who was the one who left the marriage? It was him. I just had to protect myself and had the support of everyone I knew. No one ever discouraged me. They understood that, when you are on the doorstep of tachycardia from stress, it's important to regain sanity and stability.

Cinder,

Why did he file then dismiss? Was he with OP the entire 2+ years that he was gone?

I don't know that I'm suffering stress over it, but I just feel lost. I'm not single, I'm not married. I don't know what I am. I feel like I can't plan what little bit of life I have left while I'm in this state of limbo.