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You mean boys quit pickin' on ME!!!  Mrs. W 
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Just compensation implies that I am OWED something...
Who keeps the score?
Am I OWED anything by my Wookie?
I don't think so.
But he GIVES me everything now so how would I know what was owed...by comparing him to the person he was?
There is no comparison...
Since there is the vast emptyness of nothing to compare the was with the is, and nothing divided by something equals nothing, there is zero owed.
But...
Just talked to my officemate about this and we deduced that while LOGICALLY the above MIGHT be true, actually what would be just compensation would be (and is) the Wookie's realization that no matter how long it takes my trust is not a gimmie (freebie) anymore and he's okay with that - for however long it takes - did I mention however long it takes? (hehe)
Now my brain as well as my froat (throat) hurts.
I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten. My Story Recovered!
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I think the term "Just Compensation" should be re-named "WS [censored] Kissing".
Truly just compensation for being cheated on would result in a WS (and OP) being in a hospital or a grave, or would result in the BS doing some sleeping around themselves.
While those options would be just, most BS aren't willing to "go there".
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While those options would be just, most BS aren't willing to "go there". 'Druther have my gums scraped DAILY by a myopic, palsied dentist who has a terminal case of halitosis. (apologies to any myopic, palsied, halitosis suffering dentists)
I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten. My Story Recovered!
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While those options would be just, most BS aren't willing to "go there". 'Druther have my gums scraped DAILY by a myopic, palsied dentist who has a terminal case of halitosis. (apologies to any myopic, palsied, halitosis suffering dentists) On the other hand, I just might be willing to trade all of my teeth being extracted by a crackhead with rusty pliers and no anesthesia for one shot at OM with a sniper rifle at 50 yards.
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If'n we're gonna have a 'druther debate, we can take it off topic...
I love a 'druther debate.
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By the way -- I counseled a week ago with Jennifer Harley and the subject of "compensation" came up.
She had my wife offer several "gifts" -- one being a no contact letter, one being all of the passwords, etc, and the other being a fresh list of specifics she would do to meet my ENs.
Later on, my W said that JH told her that compensation would be having a loving, caring relationship for the rest of my life.
If you ponder the rule of "caring and protection", I don't think vengeance is in there :-)
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If you ponder the rule of "caring and protection", I don't think vengeance is in there :-)
ME EITHER.
I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten. My Story Recovered!
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She had my wife offer several "gifts" -- one being a no contact letter, one being all of the passwords, etc, and the other being a fresh list of specifics she would do to meet my ENs.
Later on, my W said that JH told her that compensation would be having a loving, caring relationship for the rest of my life.
If you ponder the rule of "caring and protection", I don't think vengeance is in there :-) You should've been receiving all of those "gifts" throughout your entire marriage, without an A involved. I think "Just Compensation" is just a bad term.
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You should've been receiving all of those "gifts" throughout your entire marriage, without an A involved. I find it hard to muster an argument with that :-) but, of course, I was not doing much to meet my W's needs for all those years.
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