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Re: Divorce & Remarriage...how to deal with the qu
Pepperband #2126751 09/13/08 12:34 PM
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Here is what Dr. Harley posted about Affairages [aka adultery based marriages]. Dr. Harley is the founder and owner of Marriage Builders.

Adultery Based Marriages

Re: Divorce & Remarriage...how to deal with the qu
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Originally Posted by dreamy1945
I was wondering if anyone could recommend a book for couples who had an affair but is getting a divorce and want to be married.

HERE is a book recommendation

Private Lies by Dr. Frank Pittman

LINK ~~> Carrot/Stick of Plan A

LINK ~~> Buyers/Renters/Freeloaders
Re: Divorce & Remarriage...how to deal with the qu
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LINK ~~> Carrot/Stick of Plan A

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Re: Divorce & Remarriage...how to deal with the qu
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Originally Posted by dreamy1945
I was wondering if anyone could recommend a book for couples who had an affair


let's be honest

it's adultery

adultery
adultery
adultery

it's not a party "affair" you're having
it's a sin
it's adultery

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LINK ~~> Carrot/Stick of Plan A

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Re: Divorce & Remarriage...how to deal with the quilt
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Originally Posted by Dreamy1945
Divorce & Remarriage ... how to deal with the guilt

To answer your question "how to deal with the GUILT":

- End the adulterous relationship and never be in contact again on any level.
- Apologize to your ex-spouses and children with true remorse and sincerity taking complete and utter responsibility for your betrayal (no "but you" excuses).
- Ask for God's forgiveness.
- Stay out of any relationships for at least a year while you do self introspection finding out WHY you cheated and correct that behavior.

Then and only then is when you will relieve yourself of the well-earned GUILT you carry.

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Originally Posted by dreamy1945
I was wondering if anyone could recommend a book for couples who had an affair but is getting a divorce and want to be married. I know what the bible says about this but I also know that surely
God forgives that sin especially if the couple is trying to make it right by going to church and changing their life. Any books that would not condemn but help through the process?

The way to make it right is to END IT!

If you rob a bank, you cannot ask God to forgive you while you spend the loot. You should take the loot back and leave it behind forever. In fact the right thing to do would be serve your prison term.

But it will NEVER be OK to spend the loot/keep your adultery partner. Repentance means turning away, and God will never bless this sin you are clinging to. You SHOULD feel guilty forever, until you end this.
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