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Re: Will stay because I'm going insane!
Dealan-de #2129803 09/19/08 09:59 AM
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Good idea. Thanks!

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Re: Will stay because I'm going insane!
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she apparently send him several very mean and threatning texts.

you can post the texts she sent here, if you leave out any parts that give away identity

I bet'cha your WH has sent some text doozies hisownself

the more he tries to paint OW as THE villain here - the more I worry about your recovery

You have said WH has shown no remorse and feels no guilt - so if he throws the entire poo-bucket at OW it means he's not feeling responsible for this mess.

the more he attacks OW the less insight he shows into his own weaknesses

be observant

recovery will eventually require humility and an admission of guilt and a feeling of remorse

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Re: Will stay because I'm going insane!
Pepperband #2129823 09/19/08 10:40 AM
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she apparently send him several very mean and threatning texts.

you can post the texts she sent here, if you leave out any parts that give away identity

I bet'cha your WH has sent some text doozies hisownself

the more he tries to paint OW as THE villain here - the more I worry about your recovery

You have said WH has shown no remorse and feels no guilt - so if he throws the entire poo-bucket at OW it means he's not feeling responsible for this mess.

the more he attacks OW the less insight he shows into his own weaknesses

be observant

recovery will eventually require humility and an admission of guilt and a feeling of remorsePep

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Re: Will stay because I'm going insane!
Dealan-de #2129840 09/19/08 11:04 AM
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recovery will eventually require humility and an admission of guilt and a feeling of remorse
These words are key. kiss

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Re: Will stay because I'm going insane!
Pepperband #2129866 09/19/08 11:47 AM
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You may have misundertood me. He is not making the OW out to be the bad one. He hasn't even said anything negative about her, except that she likes women, and that's not even really a bad thing to say, it's just a fact.

I'm just saying that the other day he was able to see her bad side, which I'm assuming he hasn't had to deal with before.

I know I said in my earlier posts that I thought he didn't care or was remorseful. But at the MC appt. last night he did seem remorseful and was sorry. Could he be telling me what I want to hear in front of the counselor? Sure, of course.

But right now I have to let his actions speak for himself. Words are easy to say. What he does is what I will believe.

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Re: Will stay because I'm going insane!
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But right now I have to let his actions speak for himself. Words are easy to say. What he does is what I will believe.
AMEN!

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