Yeah, my wife couldn't seem to choose and it finally drove me to the breaking point. It was when I was breaking everything off with her that she finally turned around. In one afternoon! I dunno if it's going to last, but it certainly knocked her out of her fog for awhile. It sounds like your WW is further down the road than mine was, but it says something that she hasn't moved things along quicker.

I had to get to the point where I truly wanted to move on, and it sounds like you're there. Unfortunately there's not much you can do to rush the separation along. I think you need to come to a place in your heart and mind where you ARE moving on. Just let her go. Whether or not there are completed papers, treat her as a lost stranger in your mind. Give that impression with any communication. Be gentle but indifferent. Don't give the impression of agonizing or chasing. Just that you're strong and moving on. No anger or hurt or vindictiveness. This will help you move on yourself, or possibly scare her into a decision. This is a strong Plan A, and it's as much about you as it is about saving your marriage.

Plan B does this in a more extreme fashion. Plan B is about YOU. It's about you cutting the ties so you can protect yourself. This may have the effect of jolting her to move in one direction or another. It shouldn't matter to you. You are protecting yourself and getting on with your life. Take your life back and get going. It will be hard, but also very strengthening and freeing.