This sounds like a really bad idea to me. If she wants to ask your forgiveness, she could have done so over the phone.

People are crazy. Putting aside all the interpersonal reasons why this is unhealthy and potentially very, very painful for you, it's just not safe either.

Look at all the violent responses people are having to the thought of seeing the OW's who destroyed their lives? She may very well believe you stole *her* man, her only chance at happiness.

If that's the case, what do you think she wants to do to you?

Do. not. go. Nothing she can say is worth the risk. She is the past. Your marriage is the future and deserves all your energies. Don't give any to her. I would wager that she loves that you are concerned about what she has to say. It gives her power.

I don't know if your planning to tell your husband, but if not, that is another reason why it's a bad idea. She can run to him with a fabricated version of why you met, what was said and to top it all off, try to convince him you are a dishonest person for going behind his back. Don't underestimate her power of persuasion. I don't know your faith background, but if you believe in what the Bible says, read Proverbs 5.

If you are planning to do anything, it might be to tell your husband that she tried to contact you, and that she has nothing to say that you want to hear, that you love your husband and you are ready to move forward. I'm not sure whether that might trigger him to try to contact her himself, though....

It's just not worth it, dear. NOTHING she can say is worth it. This is not an opportunity. It is more trouble for a marriage that you're working so hard to save.