Until I get that piece of paper, which I have been waiting forever it seems to get, I am still married. However, I have not spoken to my ex in almost a year and a half.

Thanks to the laws here, neither one of us was able to file for divorce until after we had been separated for ONE year, minimum. He filed nearly one year to the day he left our home for OW.

I have yet to receive word of my divorce, and am growing quite anxious waiting.

I have however, met the most amazing man I have ever known and we are dating quite seriously.

If that is a problem in the eyes of anyone here, I don't care. My marriage only exists because the courts are slow in getting the divorce finalized.

He became my ex-husband the day I decided I never wanted to be with that scumbag again.

(I was also married by a man that was ordained to perform marriages, and not by a Church of any kind, so I guess I am free and clear from God's wrath?)

I still disagree with you Oh Great Kahuna (BTW...killer bar in San Diego if you ever get there).

Her Quote: "The actual divorce certificate is only required to get remarried."

I don't think she intends on remarrying...if she does...then she'll need to file...otherwise...it seems useless to her.

I think the point of her comments where why she couldn't date if her ex was common law married. Do you think it's unethical of her to date without the certificate? What would Jesus do? What would Scooby Do? What would the Kahuna do?

It's all a personal choice.

Have a nice night.

CRM

Ms Manners,

Good for you...if there's a god...she's happy for you.

I think it's wonderful...congratulations.

Best,

CRM

TAB

An annulment is not a statement that the marriage never existed. It says that for certain reasons that the marriage was fraudulent or entered under fraudulent conditions . My memory on the examples are fuzzy. But the best I can remember: Mentally incapable to make a decision, hid the fact that you did not want children. I heard a priest at a general relationship retreat rattle off a list of at least eight topics as reasons to get an annulment.

An annulment is not a divorce. Annulment never says the marriage never existed.

An annulment ends the marriage. It allows one to get remarried in the church.

Civil law does not recognize annulment, that's why you have to still get a divorce.

I don't understand why you answered my declarative statements ( those are sentences that end with a period ) and let some of my questions slip by.

You state that people will talk about being religious yet ignore their church on divorce. From what you have written. You have no problem picking and choosing which parts of your religion that you follow and ignore.

If you are the equivalent of being divorced there as it is in the US. You have been "divorced" for one year. Then you are ready to date when where however you want.

Thanks. I hate to rely on popular media for education.


I will go back and see what I missed.

I'm not sure where I stated that (though it's evidently true as religious people do commit adultery). I do not claim to be religious and I do not belong to any church. There are no parts to pick from. My values align most closely with Christianity probably because of my upbringing. That is not the same as being religious.

Thanks. For a bizarre twist on this - I just heard from OWH. His divorce just went through. They still have not settled the LSA. While this is not a rare occurence, in light of this discussion it leaves you wondering what their status is.