Chai:

Don't get me wrong, it's a necessary and illuminating period of life..BUT..they've yet to face RAISING ADOLESCENTS...As much as I love my boys, I sure could have skipped that if at all possible...

Mimi,

I think I take pretty good care of myself. Most people guess me a lot younger than my age. And I dress well. Not so fit anymore, but I still weigh about 112 and struggle to keep it in check these days. One comment WH made what that OW was a "bar (x)itch" and that he knew he could "take me out" and be proud of my appearance. Nice, huh? I love the finer things in life, but it was easier when I had my corporate job. I guess I used to be the ultimate Yuppie back then. To a point I still am, just don't have the $ anymore. UGH. I hate being poor. I still go to the salon for hair color though. No out-of-the-box for this girl!!!!

Raising adolescents? A tough job. I obviously didn't do a good job with one child, so I will not take on another. It's the reason I can't consider taking my daughter's baby. I know that I can't be 70 years old raising a 15 year old boy who will already be prone to addiction issues. Even with WH, that would be tough.

Anyway, just being realistic here. I AM 54, and need to start getting serious about retirement etc. The D will pretty much do me in financially since I have the bigger 401K and will likely have to give half up. That's a hard one to swallow. I worked so hard for that for me AND WH, not WH and OP.

OK, let's get positive here. I'm off to do a little shopping (window shopping that is) and have a nice lunch where I can get a cup of my favorite thing - chai!!

I'll check in on you Goddesses later.

SOUNDS GREAT!! Let's just stay away from the NURSING HOME talk..

Cinderella, I just wasted about 1/2 hour visiting the links you posted. And emailing them to a friend, who will email them to her friends.
Thanks. you made my day.

A "willie warmer!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"

CL,


...actually, CL....apparently we send MESSAGES out there, whether we like it not.... so there is not much to lose by putting 'out there' in the Universe IMAGES of what we WANT!...and let the Universe figure out the ....HOW! :RollieEyes:

...the HARD PART?...... BELIEVING that it's the LEAST of what you deserve for JUST being your BEAUTIFUL YOU!

..so that's what it was!!!

Thanks DM.

Well, yesterday I almost saw a willie I could have roasted!!! Gotta find the right thread for this - - I think I'm headed to the FEMININE HYGIENE AISLE!!

Yikes Cinder!!! Well, the reality is that if they are going to "do it" they're going to "do it" one way or the other. The best you can do is take a stand to not let it happen in your house or on your watch. She blew the trustworthiness test, so the chaperone idea is a good one, although you really can't watch her every minute. Those hormones are raging.

My daughter asked for BC pills in her Senior year and I had a meltdown. The OB/GYN said that I was lucky she asked and said better to prescribe the pills than end up with a baby at age 17. But, as you know, my Dd has always been one to push the limits of everything. It's just in her nature.

Man, I'm glad I'm through that, although I sure have other issues to deal with....

Luna,

Thanks for dropping by. You and your family have been in my thoughts and prayers.

Nothing new to report other than atty needs me to come by and sign the county docs. Makes it all seem so final now.

Old, old friend of family called me yesterday to see how my mom was doing. She has known me since I was little, and knows WH as well since she worked with him for many years before and after DD was born. Anyway, when she asked how WH was, I told her the whole thing and she was floored. Said she never would have expected something like this. Not the guy we all knew.

Life goes on....

Chai - I don't vote for pills.....I vote for an IUD - one time fix good for years. Don't care if she has heavier periods. Don't care if she has worse cramps. Cramps are better than labor. Don't care about fertility 10 years from now....want a semi-permanent fix and the rest is her problem. Of course, STDs are a whole other issue.

Can I poke her with some needles until she gets smart.

Oh, and on the WH front.....yeah, sometimes they turn out to be Dr Jekyl and Mr Hyde......who knows what evil lurks.......

Cinder,

Well, I just realized that I answered on the wrong thread. Not sure how in the he11 I managed that move, but I did. I was on the Goddess thread and wondered where my post was. DUH. I thought I forgot to hit the save button. DUH again.

I need needle therapy I do believe. The stress of the day is obviously getting to me.

And yes, poke your DD with some needles. They were a little too close to probability theory during that study session.

Waywards? Seems they also have selective memory and major brain farts. Who knew?

Well, I guess it's offical that WH now lives in the city. When I went to sign the LSA paperwork today, my atty had an apt. number near where we used to live as his official address.

Don't know if OP moved back with him or not. I don't know what it all means. I just need to quit thinking about it and quit trying to figure out why.

Yup. You can't tell what's going on in other people's minds. It is. The why, in this case, isn't important. It just is...



(BTW, I think I'm about through knitting baby booties...about past mindless task for medication. I am ready to start something more enjoyable. I just need to finish up those booties for the hospital.)

It is so hard to not want to know what is going on. Maybe my Dd is right and that OP did get another BF. Almost looks that way.
It makes me sad. When that happens it seems like such a waste.

If it's true, it's almost right on the Harley timeframe of 2 years after Dday.

OK, so I'm going back to not thinking about it.

May I suggest that you knit a sweater now? Or a nice vest?
I have some great patterns for you....

Baby's First Sweater by Theresa Gaffey Designs in a nubby white yarn for some friends expecting their first baby. Doing the 12 month size. Baby is due in December but mom is on bedrest. Not worried about finishing by arrival....I just did the increase for the sleeves. Then, it's back to a project for me....or my daughter - providing she lives that long. :crosseyedcrazy:

Hi CL,


Yes, CL.... and the next step is figuring out HOW best you can do that!

Hey, CL. Getting caught up. I see you fretting a bit over your feelings and maybe not being ready to Move On, and I think that's okay.

You don't feel the same way as SL and Bugs do because you're not in the same place that they are. You'll get to that point when you're ready. Right now, you're not. It's okay.

Right here, right now, I am fearlessly predicting that you will not be alone for the rest of your life. So stop worrying about it. It's a beautiful day outside.

Regarding your WH, it's understandable that you're curious about his situation. When the affair ends is when recovery can begin. It's what Plan B'ers are holding out for.

It seems like you have a lot of options at this point.

(((CL)))

Seems like I'm following right behind SD today - - - and he's on a roll with perfect posting/advice today!!

So I don't have much to add other than I totally understand how you are feeling. I still have days where I feel the same.

Go outside & sit in the sun for 10 minutes. It does wonders!!

Just not seeing what all of the options are yet. They just don't seem really clear to me at this point.

I'm sure I'll get to the point where you, Bugs, SL and Luna are at, and it may come faster than I think. I just want to get to the point where I don't think about this stuff anymore. It just gives me a headache.

Checks with three 0's (like the one to the atty this morning) give me a headache.

Hey Chai!

I have NO CLUE what my options are specifically! I just know they are out there and will come to me when the time is right.

I think THAT is the key - BELIEVING that the options are out there!

Then when you least expect it, one will appear out of a bright blue sky,,,,Flashing Neon,,,,it will say