Hi stillsad – Just checking in – how are things going?

“I have become much more caring and...affectionate and want her to feel the same, but I don't see that happening just yet, will it ever?”

I hope so, stillsad. There will be a lot of work to do. Have you read the articles on this site and gotten Dr. Harley’s books? Surviving an Affair and His Needs, Her Needs would be good ones to start with. Best case scenario is if you can get your WW to read them, too.

My H and I have decided to reread them and do the questionnaires again. A couple days ago, he told me he wants us to be closer than we are. We have let “life” get in the way of our M and have more or less been “coasting” for a while. We have been caring towards each other, but we are going to work on the “affectionate” part more. We've taken too long of a break from the intensity of recovery. Working on staying M is a neverending process.

I hope your W will read the articles and books, it’s very hard (if not impossible in the long run) if only one spouse is willing to do the work.

God bless,
Rose