Basically, I did not respect my family, and nor did she. When there were issues, I would take her side and then argue with my family. I really dont think I chose them over her. She knew what the situation was. Now it was not perfect, and when issues did come up, she could not handle it. That is direct result of our relationship being real bad. That is the issue not others in our lives. I really think she needs to realize that. It is quite easy to play the blame game, when life is tough.