Chai, that is a fabulous story. I have maintained for years that God sends us people to minister to us when we need them.

WHAT is Stitches? I've never heard of it.

BTW, I am over 75% finished with my friends' baby sweater. I have the back, one sleeve, and one front finished. I am working on the other sweater and front. It's knit in one piece so that puts me that far along. My daughter is knitting a sweater in a varigated blue/green yarn called Comfort - hurdle stitch (knit 2 row then 2 rows of k2p2 and repeat) for her German teacher.

Cinder,

Yes, what a story. I have a feeling that I will see her again. She was actually from my state too.

Go to www.knittinguniverse.com to read about Stitches...

And you have uninsured motorist insurance?

I found out that the state where I had the accident is a no-fault state, so it doesn't matter....

I'm sure I'll get a nice rate hike.

If you have an agent, be sure to be in contact with them.

Baltimore, huh? Well, as much fun as it would be, I don't think it's a good choice right now. If I had money for travel, I'd be flying to The Diplomat's arms.

At least you have arms to fly to. I'd say you were pretty lucky...

Hey, those arms are over 1000 miles away and I don't get to fly to them very often....4 or 5 times a year in a good year at present. Has been more. Has been less. Maybe one day.....

After all, he's been divorced for 8 years or so and I've been divorced for about 9 or 10.

Hey, CL. Sorry about the car accident but glad you're okay. Like most things, it sounds like it was a mixed blessing. An annoying hassle, to be sure, but there is some solace in knowing that you can do it by yourself and that you don't need someone else.

Plus, you might have heard just what you needed to hear from the witness woman. Her story will be interesting, but we don't really need to hear it to be pretty sure that infidelity was involved. We don't know what's going to happen. It's another reason not to Plan F-U.

CL

Hey Chai,

Checking in to see how you are feeling today?

Chai

Hey Queenie,

Doing well. Still a little squimish about getting behind the wheel, but forcing myself to do it. Heck, I'm surviving the worst thing that ever happened to me so I should be able to conquer this.

SD,

Well, I did do it by myself but it sure would have been a lot easier to have someone to call to come rescue me. It's nice to have that support.

I do hope that I hear from the lady again. I was thinking the same thing - that it was infidelity. I'm convinced that people just don't get divorced for many other reasons unless of course there is abuse, alcoholism etc.

I still haven't heard anything regarding my support hearing. Maybe it was the accident, but this week has been a down one. A little depression again. I know that I will be up and down for a long time to come, but how do you know when to give up hope, let it go and get on with it? Just when I think I've done that, I have a dream or something like this accident that gets me thinking about it all over again.

UGH.

I think that the trick is being able to Let Go of enough of It to be able to live a contented, happy life without ruling out any future possibilities. We don't know what's going to happen.


Sure. No doubt. But lots of people get into Plan B and find lots of strength in the independence part of it. "Hey, I don't need that dirty so-and-so for this. I can do this by myself." It's empowering.

Like being able to make cupcakes for a birthday party for a 4-year old girl.

Yes you are and continue to do so.

Be good to yourself. Car accidents in their own way are very traumatic. Add in a huge dose of infidelity, wayward psychoness, pregnant daughter on drugs and you have an OY VEY!!!!!!!!!!!!!

LOL. For me, making cupcakes is a piece of cake so to speak. I guess for a guy it isn't quite as easy, huh? You could probably take off the cover to my programmable thermostat in a heartbeat and think nothing of it. For me, I had to wait until a friend and her H stopped by so that he could remove it for a battery change. The instructions said to remove the screws, but I did that and the darn thing still wouldn't come off. I guess you have to put it into perspective.


Yes, there are still a few monkeys hanging on my back. Not sure what to do with the DD. Honestly, I don't know if there is anything that I can do at this point. I have to protect my sanity and peace, which I wouldn't have with her around everyday. She thrives in a life of chaos, friction, and continued drama. No one can live with it for long. It just never ends with her. She cannot care for herself, so there is no way she can care for a newborn. I just don't know what will happen.

Well, I leave for Baltimore tomorrow and will be there at the trade show until the weekend. I will try to check in along the way....

Oy vey is right!

Chai, so sorry to hear about the accident, but glad you are OK! Remember, He can turn even the worst seeming things to our good, so trust that this will all work out fine for you.

As you say, look what you have not only survived, but what you have conquered in Supreme Goddess Style!

Enjoy the trade show! Make some new friends!!!

Hi CL,

...just got caught up.

I know what you mean...the 'not having anyone' to call for support.

My own situation...with my dad's health...is also forcing me to face that reality. Yes, we do figure out what to do and do it... but somehow it 'connects' us to other times where we DID have the support....and from there....move on to NOW handle it otherwise. It probably is part of the reason why this whole process seems to take so much time.

I must say, though, your witness and her willingness to help and keep in touch is certainly something worth appreciating and being thankful for, and also helps to continue having faith in human kindness.

I know you have a handful, CL...but hang in there...you're doing good.

CL

Chai---I took daughter to tour a college and gather info. Being knitters, I understand the priorities in life. Before we got to the college - in a town of 27,000 (not including the students), we went to the LYS and got goodies for our stash.

She got some silk ribbon by Mango Moon in a color called Mars. a hank of their recycled silk in jewel tones. It is soooooooo beeeeutiful! Actually, they both are.

I've been gone for a week and almost couldn't find my thread!! It was waaaay back there.

I came back to an email from my atty. Looks like WH got a new atty and is claiming that he didn't abandon me, that I kicked him out. Not sure if it is really relevant or not. I guess that I need to talk to the atty to see where we go from here. I didn't want this to get ugly, but I guess there is no avoiding it at this point. I'm ready to make the A a big issue now because it's the only reason we are in this situation. At this point, I don't know how a M can recover when it gets this ugly.

Hope everyone has had a good week. I'm going to try to catch up on all of the threads....

I know I've replied since you last posted. I guess the computer/internet ate my reponse.

So, how was the trade show? Learn anything new?

I went in one of my local LYSs this evening. Took my recycled silk in wanting help w/ inspiration. Would have sprung for companion yarn and a pattern. The woman working complained that she was the only one there. I looked around a bit after she treated me dismissively. Before I left, she was seated at the table with some other knitters and had her own project in her hands. I guess they were more important than building a project with me. (Whaddaya think? Should I call the manager? Or, just rate them on-line?)

Anyway, there is a weekend between Christmas and New Year. My children will be with their dad. Think I could find a yarn store where I could get some help?

You hit on exactly why I opened my store. I couldn't find a store that had good customer service. They were all so nasty.

I figured that I could stay in business just by being nice to customers. So far, so good. Three other stores in the area have since closed. So yes, I know exactly where you can find a store that will be helpful!!!!!

The show was tiring. My feet hurt like h3ll. Standing on a concrete floor for 4 days is no picnic. Also, nothing really new and exciting this time around.

I love recycled silk by the way. I made an afghan out of it.