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Right now my wife tells me she is very confused. She wants to by happy. She does not want to get back together. She say maybe in the distant future. translation: throw him some false hope so he won't remove his possessions from my love nest and interrupt my affair. She wants to keep you paying the mortgage so she can continue carrying on her affair from YOUR HOME.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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ok maybe it isn't what you wanted but your w has surely sent you a clear message as to her mind set.
i think it is time for court action. a legal separation to start. protect your assets or om will be reaping the rewards.
you know that country song ... that's my truck in the drive, my dog in the yard and someone else holdin my w.
dude don't let her string you along with any of that "in the distant future" garbage.
that may and well be true but only if it is YOUR choice not hers
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6 kids together 15,19,21,23,29,30
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Thank you for the feedback. When you I am directly involved it is very hard to see what the person you love and trust is doing to you. I have protected the assets. She has the separation agreement in her hands for signing today. It is sad what is happening these days to marriages. Never did I think I would have this happen.
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BCB,
Hang in there. You have a lot of life to live, live it LARGE and enjoy it. I know you are down right now, but you have your children, You have had many good life experiences, and I suspect you are going to have many more.
Right now things are tough, but you will come through this.
I agree with others, your W is sending a clear message, "I want what I want, and I want you to be there for back up in case my choices fail me."
Not a ringing endorsement of your place in her life.
God Bless,
JL
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Thank you for the feedback. When you I am directly involved it is very hard to see what the person you love and trust is doing to you. I have protected the assets. She has the separation agreement in her hands for signing today. This is a separation agreement that was set up by you with your own attorney?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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bcb i remember those feelings well.i was right at the 1/2 century mark after a long and what we thought was a pretty good marriage i got slapped in the face with this crap from a woman i had looked on as a Saint in my life.
the mere thought of starting over was frightening. but trust me you do have plenty to live for and a full lush life ahead. i have seen it time and time again.
if there is a speck in your w's head about whether she wants back in, this should be the 2x4 that knocks it out of her.
if not it will end the mystery for you and allow you to move forward
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married 1979 - together since 1974
6 kids together 15,19,21,23,29,30
my oldest son 37
d-day (confession day) memorial day 2001
oc born 12/20/01
now 8 grandchildren
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I have been reading in a variety of posts the WW will say I am confused right now, I don't know what to do / tell.
1) What does this mean?
2) Is this an attempt at extending cake eating?
3) Does this mean I am not sure of the affair and would like to keep you as a back up in case the affair does not work out?
4) I want to stay on the bank account cause I like the money you bring to the marriage.
If you can please offer a translation I would be most appreciative. Tell her to figure out what to do right now, or get out and don't come back. Sometimes the brain benefits from a kick-start.
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