Yes, please do keep this thread going! I've been following it for some time, and applauding you for your actions.

We'd all like to hear how your little angel is coming along and how the older two are doing.

Yeah, how is it going?

Returned yesterday from a weekend getaway with all three kids. We visited an amusement park, went shopping, and just enjoyed the "new" version of our family.

Friday would have been my 15th wedding anniversary, and the WW is putting on the full court press to R.

It seems that (try and keep up!)her New-OM's STBX (though they haven't even filed yet) was having him followed in an effort to catch him in the act (with my WW)and gain custody of her kids (and ruin his ministry and testimony publicly!). Last week, she gained pictures of them exiting a hotel room together in the mountains of TN.

I know this because she (New-OM's STBX) sent me a text offering me a copy of the pics for my own court case if I needed them!

Apparently, New-OM saw what my WW was about to cost him (or...already had?) and ditched her just like her last fallen "preacher."

Predictably, she began texting and emailing me again within 48 hours begging for forgiveness and asking to R...not knowing I was aware she had been "busted."

Maybe she's just afraid of being alone...but I'm not taking the bait this time. Even today, she's sent me 3 texts asking if I still love her, but she has yet to express any emotions for me! She wants to be viewed as the victim and, like always, make everything about her.

I really do feel sorry for her, but she can't say that I didn't warn her how this would all turn out!

Less than 30 days 'til the D is final, who knows what she'll pull out of her hat next?!?

I plan to respond to her most recent 3 page email and put closure on this all for her. Surely she didn't think I would still be waiting for her? I'll be kind and spiritual and tell her she needs to move on with her own life.

She's just certain that I am seeing someone else (I'm not!), because she can't fathom how I could be happy all alone. She fails to remember that I have 3 kids here to keep me occupied!

Other than that, life is great. I have all of the congratulatory letters from the state about the adoption...just waiting on a final hearing date.

Thanks again for all of your help. I hope I can somehow help others who find themselves where I was 6 months ago in the future.

God Bless!

Ab

It's good to hear from you. Glad everything is going well.

Your WW will be pulling many more rabbbits out of her hat so be prepared. Do what you are doing, and distance yourself from her.

Best wishes!!

That's great to hear.

You really should write a book. I'm a great ghostwriter...

Anyway, on someone else's thread who has a wife similar to yours, someone suggested you sending a letter - certified, if you feel like it - saying "I wish you well, but I no longer want to be in any contact with you whatsoever. If you want anything to do with the children, please contact your parents or my parents to arrange it."

You really would benefit from this.

Thanks CP, I'm just trying to "hold put" and keep peace until Nov. 17th...court day!

We have visitation agreements which I have honored completely. In fact, we're about to leave now to go meet WW. I'm half expecting her to try and jump in the car with me tonight!

...and...some people say most of my posts, letters, and blog entries resemble books (LENGTHY!). I just might write one someday...but I'm sure it will have to be a trilogy! LOL!

AW3, your strength inspires me. I'm glad you aren't being brainwashed by her fogbabble any more. You sound wonderful! Please keep updating - especially when your adoption hearing happens. You are a fabulous dad!

WW pulled another trick out of her bag Friday night.

First, it was the "I can't believe we are not spending Halloween together," follwed by a series of calls to me first, then the kids saying that she had injured herself and needed to get to the hospital.

I didn't take the bait...told my son to tell her to call someone else.

Saw her sisiter on Saturday. She sayd she did take WW to the hospital, but that absolutley nothing was wrong with her.

I told her sister that I just couldn't play the game anymore and would not be answering. She replied, "Good for you, don't!"

This from her own sister. Guess others can see would I've come to realize too.

Otherwise, great weekend. Already decorating for Christmas. Have to take advantage of any available time to get these things done.

So far...six trees and counting...yeah, I know! I am a Christmas freak, and the kids really enjoy it too (Decorating)!

God Bless!

What a story!

You are very much an inspiration, I am so glad you keep us tuned in. Your strength is amazing, the kids need and deserve someone like you, bless you and all you do.

do not stop keeping us informed


to you and all the kids!

Your girls didn't talk you into the Suess green Christmas tree, did they?

The one with the fuschia feathered ornaments?

OMGosh I'm SO glad I caught the Wookie BEFORE the checkout stand.

The girls ALMOST pulled off the sheepish look...."buh, buh, buh MMMOOOOMMMMIIIEEE! IT WAS FOR OUR NEW ROOM!!!!!!!!!!"

AS IF!

In case you're wondering, all the girls have to do is bat their eyelashes at the Wookie and he puddles.

Believe me...I understand!

Some teenaged friends of my oldest two helped us decorate. I insisted on only two (2!) trees, but they kept saying, just think of how Peanut (the toddler Im adopting) will react when she see's all of these (she was at a sitters while we worked)!

Long story short; before I know it, there are SEVEN trees! A red, a green, a blue, a clear, a multicolored, another smaller clear in the turn in the staircase, and a fiber optic small one!

It WAS worth it when she came home and went NUTS!
It was like Christmas morning two months early!

BTW...2 weeks until final D hearing...it'll be like Christmas again 6 weeks early! (LOL, JK...a little)

You know...

I tell the Wookie all the time....

That ginormous "S" on your forehead?

Sometimes it DOESN'T stand for SUPERdad....

Sometimes it just stands for "SUCKER!"

(giggle)

13 days to go...whew!

WW actually climbed IN my car last night as I delvered the kids for their visit. Tearfully BEGGING to come home.

I asked, kindly, three times that she please get out. After the third time, I explained that I could always call the police because she was in violation of a restraining order (it's mutual...same for us both, but I had it put in place).

This morning, the texts starting pouring in accusing me of not allowing God to restore our family.

Can you believe that? She would actually like to somehow believe now that this is MY fault! Unfathomable!

Anyway...like I said, 13 days to go. Not that she will necessarily stop being an annoyance then, but at least I will legally be free.

Oh, and for those wondering...NO, I am NOT dating yet...(that seemed to be an issue for some once upon a time).

God Bless!

Do not engage her.

Lets talk about happy things.

What's for dinner?

(it's all about the food)

Way to go! You are doing very well, and your family is in my prayers.

I was one of the ones who stayed on your case about dating too soon. I hope you understand the reason was for your own happiness! I am close to a couple of different situations in which someone became emotionally involved too soon. It's easy to do after suffering abuse at the hands of the one who pledged to honor and protect your heart.

But see, the danger is, after all that abuse, even the tiniest crumb of kindness seems soooo wonderful that it can blind one to full reality. You see, ABw/3, a nice and attractive Christian man like you with very special children, will be a great catch for some fine Christian ladies. But you will also be sought after my some needy women who may say and do all the right things at first, but who will not be perfect for you in the long run. In fact, some of them may even end up making "okay" mates for you, but why should you settle for "okay" when you can wait and have your choice of "EXCELLENT" ?!

You will never regret it if you give yourself a year or two before getting emotionally involved, I promise!

Hey abw/3!! How are you? I was just thinking about you yesterday and wondering how things were going for you. We had joined this forum at around the same time and I tried to keep up with your thread. I'm glad to see that you seem to be doing so well. I bet Peanut is loving those trees, huh?

I wish you the best of luck and all kinds of happiness. You really seem to be doing okay, enjoying your kids, and all of that. Time really does help, don't you think?

WHAT is this? I am so like a little kid in a grown up body sometimes. WHAT??? WHAT??? WHAT???

Just to let people know, I find it easy to see someone else's point of view.


I can easily imagine how your STBXWW is feeling right now. She made a choice and thought she was going to go off and have a happy time with OM and you were ALWAYS going to support her.

How dare you grow a backbone?! How DARE you pull the rug out from under her feet?!

Oh and how dare you sit there calmly while she is writing in painful agony as the seconds...minutes...hours tick by until the moment you divorce?

Great work, AB3! I feel terrible for laughing at what you said she did though. D:

Karma, you absolutely hit the nail on the head. She truly thought that NO MATTER WHAT she did, 'ole ABW3 would ALWAYS take her back.

As I've stated numerous times, I am 100% pro-marriage. I really don't even believe in D except under extenuating circumstances and think one should exhaust all other options before considering D.

I feel comfortable that I did indeed exhaust ALL options (3X!!!) and am now completely at peace with moving beyond this toxic little narcissistic "princess."

Just last night, I receive a text from WW stating, "Now I know why you won't give us another chance...no more blaming just me for this!" Of course, she was implying that she knows who my new girlfriend is.

What makes it laughable is...I haven't dated anyone in the six months she's been gone!

I have to admit that it feels pretty good knowing that I am blameless here and that I haven't done anything stupid like getting involved with someone else.

I could have made a hundred different decisions in the past six months; but, with the help of some advice from MB, I rest easy knowing I have stayed on the straight and narrow!

Thank again folks! God Bless!