Well Flynny,

Funny you should ask. I put a keylogger on the computer at home and have been monitoring WW like a hawk.

As it turns out OM showed up at my house yesterday mid-morning and gave back WW some belongings she had loaned him. WW told OM she wouldn't be leaving with him, so apparently he verbally abused her for about 2 minutes and said "I never want to see you again. I have wasted one year of my life on you - you're not cute, you're nothing and you'll end up just like oyur Mum" and then left. The anguished email that my wife sent him shortly afterwards confirms this.

I met WW after one of her exams yesterday and she immiedately told me what had happened. She even asked me if OM had called me at work.

Still trying to get my head around all of this so I am not sure what to do. WW was talking about future plans with me this last weekend and taking a job offer in Europe - also about having babies... but I am very, very circumspect about all of this right now. She is very cold, withdrawn, sad and angry today. She got mad that I took the day off work and was "crowding her f---ing space" but I won't let her out of my sight until OM leaves tomorrow afternoon. I have all of his flight itinerary and will probably go to the airport to confront him at the check in desk.

Will write more soon - still treading very, very carefully.

What is OM doing at your house? Damn! (Rhetorical question)

Could you confirm all this with someone apart from WW?

What happened to WW's mum?

Hi Imagine,

OM purportedly went to my house to retrieve the key to his apartment back off WW, and to hand back a SIM card and some other personal effects.

WW did tell me about it but I verified it independently by hacking into her emails. She previously refused to give me the passwords to her email accounts so I've used a keylogger to discover them. The email that she sent to OM after he left confirms her version of the story.

WW's mum is a piece of work to say the least. She's a narcissist, has no friends and is obsesssed with her image and appearance (spends hours brushing her hair in the mirror every day - has never had a job etc). She also is extremely belligerent and makes enemies. Most of this stems from heavy substance abuse in her youth.

WW is not like her Mum in most ways.

What is the mood with WW?

Are you still able to steer a Plan A?

What's happening about your transfer to Deutchland?

You are 5 months over due to be in plan B. Get there now!

I still have the energy to steer a Plan A if necessary. The reason for this is that contact between OM and WW has been intermittent since she came back to Australia in May until he came here for a trip, so my Love Bank is running very low - but isn't bankrupt.

WW and I have resumed physical intimacy and are spending literally all of our time together. She said on Sunday "GH31 is the chance for us to fall in love again. Those feelings are there and I have them for you - they just need to be evoked again. I want us to have sex as much as possible.". I am monitoring her email and so far there has been no further contact with OM. She has agreed to do a NC letter and I will post when this has been done. OM was very verbally abusive with WW on Monday and said some very savage things to her. The email that I intercepted from WW to him confirmed this.

The transfer to Germany has fallen through. I received a letter today advising that the offer has been cancelled due to a number of factors - the economic downturn being the main one.

Will write more soon.