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Is she still pg?
Not that it matters.
She's so full of it!
I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten. My Story Recovered!
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I feel comfortable that I did indeed exhaust ALL options (3X!!!) and am now completely at peace with moving beyond this toxic little narcissistic "princess." You absolutely did. You went above and beyond. Any more would've been harmful to *everyone* involved, her included (enabling is not helping). Just last night, I receive a text from WW stating, "Now I know why you won't give us another chance...no more blaming just me for this!" Of course, she was implying that she knows who my new girlfriend is. AW, I know it isn't your responsibility or concern anymore, and I don't want to get you going down the road of trying to rescue her, but I wonder if she ever got some mental health help. I'm wondering, because it affects your children... and that poor unborn, if she's truly pregnant. (I'd forgotten about that!) Do you know? Are you staying in contact with your inlaws? I'm in NO WAY encouraging *you* to get pulled into *anything* with her! Your first duty is to your kids. *Your* kids. All three of them. 
me - 47  H - 39  married 2001 DS 8a  DS 8b :crosseyedcrazy: (Why is DS7b now a blockhead???) (Ack! Now he's not even a blockhead, just a word! That's no fun!)
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Why did the OM dump her?
Make sure your name does not go on this last one's birth certificate.
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I am still very much loved by ALL of her family. They say she has refused to consider any psychological treatment.
Not sure why FIRST OM dumped her, I just know it was around the time she found out about the pregnancy.
Most recent OM dumped her when their affair became public. Though, I'm not sure why, the damage was already done then.
And...in our state, she can put whatever name she wants on the birth certificate. Nothing I can do to change that!
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Well, if she does and you find out, I would request a DNA test and then, if needed, have the birth certificate ammended.
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Now that you're coming in the home stretch, as it were, how is she acting?
If I were her--alone, and miserable--and I saw you all happy and whatnot, I'd surely be finding some way--ANY WAY--to get you back. Judging on her past performance I mean.
One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
I will not spend my life this way.
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Is the divorce final yet?
I know the adoption is supposed to be finalized after that.
So, what's coming up when?
We want to know because we care and we are proud of the progress you have made.
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IT IS FINISHED!
D Hearing was today at 3pm. WW did NOT show. Everything went as planned...the judge even added the caveat, ON HIS OWN, that not only was WW not to have our children around any boyfriends for OVERNIGHTS...she is NOT to have them around boyfriends EVER! DAY OR NIGHT!
No real surprises. I admit to mixed emotions; but, mostly RELIEF that it's behind me!
Adoption hearing looks like the week before Christmas (I HOPE!)
Thanks again for caring!
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BTW, Karma, you assumed correctly, she pushed even harder than ever the last two weeks.
She even wore her wedding band again and kept insisting that God could work a miracle.
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I'm sure you have a lot of mixed emotions, but you know you did what was necessary. You have protected yourself and your children. You will have peace. Your WW never will.
Your future is soooo bright.
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DDay EA 4/05
DDay PA 6/05
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TG your kids are protected from OM
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TG your kids are protected from OM AMEN!
I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten. My Story Recovered!
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She even wore her wedding band again and kept insisting that God could work a miracle. He has, just not the one she wanted.
Widowed 11/10/12 after 35 years of marriage
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“In a sense now, I am homeless. For the home, the place of refuge, solitude, love-where my husband lived-no longer exists.” Joyce Carolyn Oates, A Widow's Story
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Congratulations AW3! This is great news! I know you are probably having mixed emotions about it, but in reality you have protected yourself and your kids from her and any other creep she might bring into her life. You have won!!!
Good luck with the adoption!!!
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Glad to see an update! Prayers going up for the adoption to continue smoothly.
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Could you tell us about how she was leading up to the divorce day? Has she tried to contact you since?
I wouldn't be surprised to find if she mysteriously got into the hospital for some reason..
A last ditch effort.
One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
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KARMA, are you sure you don't know her???
Halloween night (2weeks before court), she mysteriously "hurts" herself and simply MUST have MY assistance. When I refuse to answer or respond, she calls her sister (former IM) and tells her to get me over there immediately to take her to the hospital.
WW's sis then calls me and says that I should not go and that I should NEVER take her calls again. She takes her to the hospital...NOTHING was wrong! Her own family advised me to steer clear!
This morning, I did take her call (she has the kids through tomorrow for visit). She seemed shocked and truly broken that I had gone through with D. She NEVER expected me to I'm sure. She says she will live the rest of her life with regret and waiting for me.
I reminded her she has been planning the rest of her life with two other men for the last six months and told her good luck!
She'll continue trying I'm sure...until some other man pays her a little attention or flatters her. Hope he shows up soon!
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No, I simply have a relative who is somewhat like her. If he feels he's not getting attention he cuts himself or something, or pretends to be hurt. That, and if I were her it's probably also what I would have done. Maybe you should start a post in the Divorcing/Divorced forum now, and keep us updated.  Your advice could be very valuable to many others.
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One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
I will not spend my life this way.
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