Be honest, you little stalkers! We want to know!

Not all of us do.

That's like asking "Women, why can't you drive a car?"

...who exactly is "we", and why do you want to know?

I am of the opinion that women grope more than men do.

I guess I could've answered (in jest, of course):

Because all you broads like it, that's why!

ML,

Good idea with this thread.

Guys, she's asking because this question came up in another thread. Not to imply that ALL men grope, just curious as to those that do, why do they do it. This I think is specific to married men only, right ML?

What does it symbolize for them? Is it because they have spasms and can't control the movement of their arms, or is it just instinct?

Well? Anybody?

You too ladies. Ask hubby why he does it and let us know so we may be enlightened.

Beam

Apparently they think the .25 second thrill they get from inappropriately touching a woman is worth the risk of getting their [censored] kicked.

Never thought I'd miss being groped, but there's a first for everything.

releif of some sort?

its uncontrollable for some of us i guess, i do it alot while sleeping.

who knows.

Same reason that women have turned the cosmetic industry into a billion dollar a year enterprise.

they want to be groped, and men are all to happy to oblige.

All Blessings,
Jerry

i do it b/c my wife likes it (it makes her feel attractive).

Mel:

I just wanted to clarify what you meant:

Definitions of grope on the Web:

1: feel about uncertainly or blindly; "She groped for her glasses in the darkness of the bedroom"
2: search blindly or uncertainly; "His mind groped to make the connection"
3: the act of groping; and instance of groping, fondle for sexual pleasure; "He made some sexual advances at the woman in his office and groped her repeatedly"

I would presume that you are speaking of Item #3. A man making sexual advances on a woman. And I presume further that these are unwanted sexual advances.

Because if you are talking about a husband and wife, the wife can certainly feel "groped" when she has disconnected from her husband because her EN's haven't been met. And he's looking to get one of his met.. We can deal with that issue around here.

So, if you are talking about the unwanted kind, (someone said this started on another thread, I don't know that thread) then that guy deserves a slap across the face. Or, more likely, assault charges. Because "to grope" is simple assualt.

LG

LG,


That is exactly what ML meant. And you are so right when you say that the wife can feel groped when she has disconnected from husband because one of her EN's haven't been met. That particular EN in my case (probably others as well) is affection. H thinks his groping IS a form of affection. He had missed the point that wasn't how I perceived affection.

We are just kind of looking to see what other H's feel their "groping" means to them.

Beam

If my wife interprets my affectionate touches as "groping" and, even worse, is offended by it, then something's obviously wrong in the state of Matrimony, at least in our little corner of it.

If you mean why we grope our wives/GF's....because women feel good and it is a sign of affection...sometimes testing their mood. Women do it too but we take it immediately that the game is on, so they are more careful. Its been a while since I was in the dating world but unless it was a GF/BF relationship I never grabbed or groped a women.

ILF,


Yes, W's or GF's only, not strange women in a bar or in the workplace. That is the same reason my H gave me. Because it feels good and says it's a sign of affection.

On the flip side, I asked him how do I show affection to him. He replied, kisses on the neck, hugs from behind, you know.

After he said that (I just asked him tonight to define) he said, "Do you want me to stop? I won't do it if you don't like it." It's almost like a lightbulb went off. He finally realized that MY definition of affection was vastly different from HIS definition of affection.

It was nice to see a little fog lifting.

Beam

Yes it does indicate a problem in the state of matrimony - as evidenced by WstbxH's affair. I honestly can't remember the last time he touched me, other than accidentally, anywhere other than what might be considered a sexual "part" of the anatomy. For example, it was pre-1995 when he last held my hand. I have a vague memory of him stroking my hair once but I could have been dreaming. Affection is my #1 EN, so yes, it was completely absent. Except that he considered touching any female part that I had and he didn't as affection. When it comes to that, if anything it's anti-affectionate.

shuddup and get off my thread, you silly man!!


That is a wrong assumption, Jerry! I like wearing makeup but I hate being groped.


Here is the thing, LG, I don't feel disconnected from him at all. We are very close. But he believes he has a groping entitlement. it is very annoying.


BINGO!! Groping is not affection, it is not romance, it is just downright annoying. I think some men miss that.


Well, an affectionate touch to me is putting an arm around her waist, giving her a kiss, hug or rubbing her back,holding hands. My H does do those things. But that is NOT what I am calling groping. It is other things and it is a HUGE turn off and annoyance.

I just wondered why men do it. And thanks to everyone for responding!

Mel..I have never groped a woman that didn't invite it...or grope me first.
Men are not missing anything here...it is that women send out mixed signals...they do these things themselves and never give it a second thought.

The things you call groping would be, IMHO, considered affectionate by most women.

Is there something else going on with your husband that makes you feel violated?

I like that Mr. W is a groper! Perhaps that is because he gives me affection in other ways too though...His "groping" me tells me that "I've still got it" as far as he's concerned and I dig that immensely!

I grope him as well, and I also like to call him my personal piece of "man candy"...And some other even more colorful expressions...hehehehe...

I guess groping is all about mood...If I was in a really bad mood for instance, I would not appreciate it, and Mr. W is tuned into me enough to know this...This is likely when he would start with his "you are so cute when you are mads"...Unfortunately, that usually does serve to make me grin, no matter how hard I try for it not to! Mr. W is a DAWG and won't just let me be mad!

Mrs. W

See, even if I am in a good mood, it drives me nuts. Groping can put me in a bad mood real quick because it feels like an assault to me. MEDC, seriously, I don't invite it. I really hate it.