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Yes, it isn't just that I suspected gay/bi. She also found emails from women/with nude pics or something. IMHO one way or another he's being less than faithful.
Some folks have installed voice activated recorders in their cars, in addition to computer snooping. Also, check cell phone records, call him while he's out and listen to background sounds; you could also drive by where he says he will be. I actually have set up the cell phone thing so I get the detailed billing, and I've been calling him often, it usually sounds like he's driving (like the wind noise). Except right now he's not answering. Also we share 1 car, so if he's out I'm stuck...
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I'm sure that he would find the key logger, he does work on computers Don't be so sure about that. My WS is an IT Administrator and he NEVER found the two keyloggers that were on his pc. That was even AFTER he & OW discussed the possibility that I installed one and he made a point to look for them. You have to be selective about which one you use and be careful which "hot keys" you have set for it. Charlotte
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There are posts I think that describe what we call "fog babble" but some examples that come to mind are:
the most famous: ILYBINILWY ("I love you but I'm not in love with you.")
I deserve to be happy / we deserve to be happy.
I never loved you. Well he hasn't said those specific things.... I guess kind of similar he's said: What ever happens, happens, just let it be... In the middle of an arguement I asked why he was even still here and he said he didn't know... I asked before why he stopped saying things like I love you and he said I should just know those things, he doesn't need to say them... what do you think?
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I'm sure that he would find the key logger, he does work on computers Don't be so sure about that. My WS is an IT Administrator and he NEVER found the two keyloggers that were on his pc. That was even AFTER he & OW discussed the possibility that I installed one and he made a point to look for them. You have to be selective about which one you use and be careful which "hot keys" you have set for it. Charlotte I will check into that then, are they very expensive? Any suggestions on which to look at? (if suggestions like this are allowed on this site...) Thanks!
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I was reading your post and wondering about your husband and these "guy friends," then when I got to the last paragraph......yeah.
Is your husband bisexual?
Why did he pay for this other "friend's" plane ticket?
Does he just lock himself in a room with these guys or what? You said he gets made if you knock on the door.
Charlotte  Sorry, Queenie. I didn't see any point in beating-around-the-bush, KWIM?  Charlotte
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I'm sure that he would find the key logger, he does work on computers Don't be so sure about that. My WS is an IT Administrator and he NEVER found the two keyloggers that were on his pc. That was even AFTER he & OW discussed the possibility that I installed one and he made a point to look for them. You have to be selective about which one you use and be careful which "hot keys" you have set for it. Charlotte I will check into that then, are they very expensive? Any suggestions on which to look at? (if suggestions like this are allowed on this site...) Thanks! There's a whole thread devoted to keyloggers but I'm not sure how to get to it because the search function doesn't work properly for me. Maybe someone else knows how to grab it quickly? The price varies from $0 on up to $?. I wouldn't use one of the freebies, though. Not safe, IMO. Charlotte
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When and if something happens, it's always focused on him (excuse me for being graphic, but he only wants a bj or back door, so I am not touched in any way, shape, or form that would be pleasureable to me) Your H is either bi (with a heavy emphasis on the gay side) or addicted to porn, likely of the "gonzo" variety. First step you should do is snoop and find out what he is REALLY up to when he thinks you are not looking.
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MiM you have a point. Do you think he and his friends might be watching porno behind those closed doors that he gets angry when she knocks? What about installing one of those "nanny cams" in that room?
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When and if something happens, it's always focused on him (excuse me for being graphic, but he only wants a bj or back door, so I am not touched in any way, shape, or form that would be pleasureable to me) Your H is either bi (with a heavy emphasis on the gay side) or addicted to porn, likely of the "gonzo" variety. First step you should do is snoop and find out what he is REALLY up to when he thinks you are not looking. That's what I'm screamin'. Charlotte
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I think that's a good idea, or even a voice-activated recorder in the same room that she can later listen to.
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