Sunlight is the best disinfectant. <P>At this point, your husband is unlikely to respond to logic for the simple reason that he is not thinking logically. Take it to your church leaders immediately and let God take it from there. <P>May the Lord Bless you and Keep You<BR>John

I have talked with the head deacon and he has asked that I give an older pastor a chance to catch up with my h and talk with him.<BR>Of couse this has been hard to do since he REFUSES to contact anyone who tries to reach him (if they are someone who will tell him he's wrong- He hasn't spoke to his own parents since Christmas!) So, this is the way it is.<BR>I don't want my boys to get the idea that this is the way to treat women (Yes, I'm paying attention Cuckold) however, I feel I must try to do everything in my power to work things out. But, I assure you, the times of just sitting idly by as time slips away and my bills pile up are over. He is going to take care of his responsibilities and I am going to continue to ask God to help me do it. <BR>I really don't want to be totally vengefull or hateful but I see that while I'm going from hand to mouth and trying to pull things together financially, he's doing better than he has in a while because he doesn't have two babysitters to pay, groceries and diapers to buy, utilties to juggle paying, etc. But this will soon end.<BR>Thanks everyone for your care and concern. <BR>I'm snapping out of that fog now. <BR>God bless and everyone be encouraged.

Humble him. NOW! Go to local/state/national church authority and quit sweeping this under the rug. Church authorities who DO NOT know your husband are the ones you should be talking to. People close to him will not have the courage to carry out God's will. It is...<BR>1 Timothy 5:20<BR>