Thanks Queenie. It wasn't what I expected would happen, but it is what it is (a very profound statement by me, huh?).

Ah, the pills. Don't think I'd make a very good addict. I was scared I was going to get pulled over for drunk driving while on the way. It was a close call. I was just glad that I only took 1/2 of it. I can't imagine what the whole thing would have done.

I was very mad at DD today for what she did. When I called her I told her to leave me alone for a couple of days. She has been texting me all afternoon, apologizing etc. One of her texts said "I hope you are OK because dad is not." WTF? Why? Because I didn't say hi? What does he expect? I don't bake cakes anymore, and he can whine about it all he wants.

Hi CL,


So are we!

Glad to see you got through your Court appearance.

...and as everyone says...somehow we survive these 'ordeals' one way or another.

You done good,

As a Goddess should...

But we KNEW you would!!

It was understood.



Charlotte

Me either. Sounds like it was just a status conference so the judge could figure out what was going on with the case.


I chuckled too when I read about your pill-popping. I'm glad you were okay.


I believe this is called trying to push your buttons. :crosseyedcrazy:

I see strength gathering in you.

Well, I get documents from the atty this morning and it said a Restraining Order would be forthcoming. Can you believe that? I have done nothing that would require a RO against me. I have had no contact with him for a year. One other document stated that I told him he could not come to our other house. I never said that.

Can someone explain why he is doing this and making up all of these lies? I just don't get it.

Sounds like it is some legal posturing *thunk up* by his attorney.

I have no idea what to say about the restraining order thing. Sounds like your WH is struggling a great deal and is taking out everything in the a-r-s-e-n-a-l to stay afloat. You just let your attorney take care of this. Do not back down from your WH. He's trying to bully you, IMO, to scare you, only Chai don't scare so easily these days, right?

I agree with princessmeggy ,you do sound like you are gaining strength. Good for you, Chai.

I wouldn't worry too much about it, Chai. It's manuevering.

It may not be a restraining order like we think of in the traditional sense, like to protect him physically from you.

A RO was put on both WxH and I when the D was first served prohibiting us from selling anything, changing beneficiaries, etc.

It may be standard legalese so that you can't get "rid of" your "hidden" assets.

P2e (pa-too-ee) on your WH.

Keep on him producing the documents showing what he spent on OW - and make him repay you.

You ARE strong, Chai. Don't let him shake you.

Fox

Yep, me too. I expect that's what it is--to prevent you from emptying out the Swiss Banc account and moving any more of the millions from your shop into your other offshore account in the Caymans.

How about this to your DD: "Your father is the one who chose to leave. I'm the one who wanted to reconcile. If he would rather reconcile our marriage, I'm happy to discuss it with him."

I bet it's because it contains the word [censored]. A-r-s-e.

I guess I'm just having a hard time processing all of this hostility and continued lying. He didn't want to be M, wouldn't give up OP, so I left and have not bothered him at all. Basically, it was "OK, fine, go with her" and I continued about my life as best I could. I've done a pretty darn good Plan B. Isn't that want they want? For the "in the way" spouse to go away and let them have their A?

This is just getting regoddamndiculous.

I'm using this in the future....

and as far as your WH is concerned, don't try to figure him out. It's a waste of valuable brain cells. Just keep doin' what your doin'...

SL,

Mike Myers used it in one of the Austin Powers movies. I've always loved that one....

Yeah. But as long as we are breathing we are in the way so they want to make things as difficult as possible for us.

Water off a duck's back, Baby!!!

In one orifice and outta da udder!!

I guess it really boils down to them still wanting CONTROL!!! EEEEEEEEEE-YAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!! Dream on, Suckers!!!!



Charlotte

I told my x once that I had a feeling everything I did, including breathing, annoyed him and he said it did and that he wished I didn't.

I told him another time that I thought his goal in life was to make my life hell. He told me I was right.

He did these in front of our children.

There is NO accounting for idiot waywards.


..:twobyfour:

Cinder, your xh sounds like one heck of a guy.

Well, I checked today and the guy in the Peace Corps answered my email and would like to correspond. I'm not sure how I feel. I'm flattered, but at the same time it doesn't feel right. Maybe I am just not ready to stick my toe in the water.

My neighbor came over tonight and we talked a lot about the D. She is also a BS who had enough, filed for D and moved out. In her case, the OW moved into her house less than 2 weeks later. Yep, sleeping in her bedroom, using her bathroom, kitchen etc. What does that say about the OW? Yuk.

Anyway, she thinks that I should just call WH and offer to negotiate rather than spend all of the money on attys. He is obviously in poor health, and possibly facing disability if he really is as bad off as he looked. I've just gone back and forth with this so much. After court yesterday, I realized that this thing could drag on for months and neither one of us really can afford it. I think maybe I'm just ready to get it over with one way or the other. I'll think about it all over the next week.....

chai, are you there. If so respond and I'll put my number on here for few minutes and we can talk now...

Checking in to wish everyone a very Happy Holiday Season.

WH's family invited me there tonight. It was very nice. I'm so amazed at how they have been so supportive of me. I consider them my family too.

DD was supposed to spend tonight with WH. I will go see her tomorrow.

Not much else to report. I decided to paint my 1/2 bath, but the color is not what I wanted. I put on a base coat, then a glaze was supposed to soften the color but it didn't. I've never worked with a glaze before, but honestly, snot would have been easier to paint with. That stuff was a mess to put on. In the end I decided I won't be able to live with it, so I'm going to go get primer, cover it, and start over with another color.

Oh, the things we do in Plan B to keep busy....